Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents

Name: Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents | Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath
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Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath

Vicki Lansky(Autor*in)

Book Peddlers, The (Verlag)

Erschienen am 1. Februar 2009

240 Seiten

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Inhalt

Intro
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Forward: The Voice of Experience
Preface
1. The Decision to Separate
The Danger of Continuing Conflict
Breaking the News
For the Kids' Sake
Trial Separations
Planning Your Words
Picking a Time and Place
If the Departure Isn't Planned
Telling the Kids
Give a Reason for Your Divorce
After You've Broken the News
Listen to Them With Your Heart
The Value of Crying
Telling the Others
A Look At the Brighter Side
And the Not So Bright Side
2. How Will the Children Take It?
What You Can Expect
What to Do About "Whys?
Age Makes a Difference
Infants and Toddlers
What You Can Do to Help
Age-Appropriate Books on Divorce for Children
Preschoolers
What You Can Do to Help
Elementary School-Age Children
What You Can Do to Help
Preteens and Teenagers
What You Can Do to Help
Best Help for Children of Any Age
Your Child as Your Peer
Gender-Related Concerns
Gay Parents and Gender Concerns
Adult Children Can Still Be Childlike
When Professional Help Is Called For
When Counseling Will Help
If You Have Lost Control
Building or Rebuilding Kids' Self-Esteem
3. "D-Day": Departure Day
Preparation for "D-Day
Laying Your Plans
Splitting Up the Household Goods
Post-Parting" Depression
When the Door Closes from the Inside
When the Door Closes from the Outside
The Fantasy of Reconciliation
Helping to Lay the Fantasy to Rest
If Reconciliation Is a Possibility
If One Parent Wants to Reconcile and the Other Doesn't
4. Words Matter: Learning "Divorce-Speak
How to Talk About the Departing Spouse To Your Children
Keeping Your Cool
How to Talk To Your Existing Spouse
Give Your Ex the Benefit of the Doubt
When You Can't Talk to Your Spouse
When a Child Won't Visit or Talk to the Other Parent
When the Other Parent Won't Communicate with His or Her Children
The Option of "The Other House
A New Kind of Parenting Partnership
5. The Issues: Money, Legalities, Custody
Money Matters
What Does Child Support Cover?
The Paying Parent
If You Are the Less Well-Off Parent
If You Are the Better-Off Parent
Making It Legal
Mediation as an Option
New Alternatives
Your Lawyer
What Will a Lawyer Do?
Choosing a Lawyer
Money-Saving Tips
Going to Court for Custody
Your Parenting Arrangement (aka Custody)
What Are the Options in Custody?
The Right to Move Away
Parent Divorce Education
Who Decides?
Denied Access/Visitation
The Accusing Finger
Parental Kidnapping
Being Cautious
6. Sole Custody and the Noncustodial Parent
Single-Father Households
The New, Disadvantaged Working Mother
Noncustodial Mothers
Keeping Your Ex-Spouse from Being an Ex-Parent
Encouraging Part-Time Parenting
The Unreliable Parent
Making It Easier on the Kids
Reentry" and "Off-the-Wall
Keeping Yourself - the Noncustodial Parent - From Being an Ex-parent
Consistency. . . Frequency. . . Predictability
Outing Ideas for Weekend Parents
The Long-Distance, Out-of-State Parent
Keeping the Lines Open From a Distance
Also For Keeping Connected
7. Shared Parenting (aka Joint Custody)
Positive Aspects of Shared Parenting
Legal Leanings
Why Some Think Shared Parenting Can Be Less than Desirable
Making Shared Parenting Workable
The "Transfer" Maneuver
Transitions for Parents
8. Looking Down teh Road: Divorce Is a Process, Not an Event
Long-Term Adjustments
Your Computer Is Your Friend
When It's Finally Final
What's In a Name?
Taking Care of Yourself
Dealing With the Pain
Guilt and Blame and All That
Making Time When Ther Is None
School, Kids, and Divorce
School Conferences
Family Adjustments
Grandparents, and the "Other" Grandparents
The Holidays
DIviding the Holidays
Holiday Traditions
Holiday Guidelines and Alternatives
Preparing for Long-Distance Holiday Visits
Birthdays
Gift-Giving
Mother's Day and Father's Day
Special Occasions Requiring Family Togetherness
Camp Visiting Days
Dating, Sex, and the Single Parent
Finding Other Single Parents
But You're In Love
Your Ex Is In Love
Your Remarriage
Family Ties That Bind
Religious Closure
Afterword
Index

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