Resilience, Confidence, and Positive Thinking - Manga for Success

Preface ...... 11 Resilience Is... Why Aren't Things Going Well?! ...... 16 01. Why Resilience is Currently Necessary * Stress Wears the Heart Out ...... 28 * Career Turning Points Are Dangers to the Heart ...... 30 02. What is Resilience? * Resilience Is... ...... 32 * Three Traits of Someone With High Resilience ...... 33 Prologue Contents IT'S SO GOOD! 1-15_Resilience.indd 3 9/30/2022 5:44:23 PM * Resilience is a Psychological Resource Everyone Has ...... 34 03. Strengthening Resilience * Three Steps to Strengthen Resilience ...... 36 * Challenges Become Nourishment For Resilience ...... 38 * Resilience Becomes Stronger Through Practice ...... 41 Part 1 Controlling Negative Emotions I See, So I Was Exhausted. ...... 44 01. How to Not be Swayed By Negative Emotions * Stress Makes the Heart Weaker ...... 60 * Emotions Can Be Controlled ...... 61 * Do Not Seal Off Emotions ...... 62 02. Negative Is Stronger Than Positive * The Rumination Phenomenon of Emotions ...... 65 Story 1 1-15_Resilience.indd 4 9/30/2022 5:44:23 PM * The Positive Brain and the Negative Brain ...... 67 03. Emotions Are Hiding in the Shadows of Problematic Behavior * The Mechanism of Emotions and Behaviors ...... 70 04. Irritation and Anxiety Are Contagious * Beware of the Emotional Vampire ...... 73 * Using Emotional Transmission Daily ...... 74 05. The Positive Role That Negative Emotions Have * Learn How to Control Emotions ...... 76 06. The Three Methods In Controlling Emotions * Control Your Breathing to Cool Your Mixed Up Emotions ...... 79 * Add Labels to Your Emotions ...... 80 * Don't Hold On to Your Stress Overnight ...... 83 Part 2 Taming Negative Assumptions S t o r y How to Hang Out With an Assumption Dog ...... 88 2 1-15_Resilience.indd 5 9/30/2022 5:44:23 PM 01. What Are Assumptions? * People Have Tinted Glasses Inside Their Hearts ...... 106 * The Mechanisms of Assumptions And Emotions ...... 107 * In Order to Control Your Emotions ...... 109 02. Taming Assumptions * The Seven Types of Negative Assumptions ...... 110 * The Righteous Dog (The Should Be Mindset) ...... 111 * The Loser Dog (The Devaluing Mindset) ...... 113 * The Worrywart Dog (The Pessimistic Mindset) ...... 115 * The Abandoning Dog (The Powerless Mindset) ...... 117 * The Apologetic Dog (The Self-Accusing Mindset) ...... 118 * The Criticism Dog (The Mindset of Blaming Others) ...... 120 * The Apathetic Dog (The Irresponsible Mindset) ...... 122 * In Order To Realize Your Assumptions ...... 124 03. Three Ways To Deal With Assumption Dogs * Dealing With Negative Assumptions ...... 126 * Banish It ...... 126 * Accept It ...... 127 * Training/Taming ...... 127 1-15_Resilience.indd 6 9/30/2022 5:44:24 PM Part 3 Get Social Support Is There Someone Who Can Help You? ...... 132 01. Why Are You Unable To Rely On Others? * The External and Internal Reasons for Inability to Rely On Others ...... 156 * The Three Features of Workplaces That are Not Cooperative ...... 156 * Assumptions Can Hinder Relationships With Others ...... 158 02. Get Social Support * Building Quality Interpersonal Relationships ...... 160 * Find Five Supporters ...... 161 03. Creating an Organization With High Resilience * What are the Requirements For a Good Workplace? ...... 164 04. Four Factors in Forming Quality Relationships * Relationships With Cooperation ...... 166 * Relationships With Respect ...... 166 * Relationships With Trust ...... 168 * Relationships With Playfulness ...... 169 Story 3 1-15_Resilience.indd 7 9/30/2022 5:44:24 PM Part 4 Restoring Your Self-Confidence In Order to Work With Confidence ...... 172 01. Why Are You Unable to Feel Confident? * Those Who Are Unable To Take A Step Forward Because They Lack Self-Confidence ...... 186 * What Happens When You Are Unable to Have Self-Confidence ...... 178 * The Reason You Lose Self-Confidence ...... 188 02. The Psychological Resources to Heighten Self-Confidence * You Can Get Self-Confidence From Increasing Self-Efficacy ...... 191 * What Is Self-Efficacy? ...... 191 Story 4 * Self-Efficacy and Resilience ...... 192 CAKECHAN, TOO. HOW ABOUT THINKING ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO? 1-15_Resilience.indd 8 9/30/2022 5:44:24 PM 03. Making a Foundation For Self-Confidence ~How To Raise Your Self-Efficacy~ * Four Factors in Raising Self-Efficacy ...... 194 * What You Need in Order to Tie Accomplishments Into Self-Efficacy...... 195 * How to Handle Failure ...... 197 * Build Up Small Achievements ...... 198 * Examples Increase Confidence ...... 200 * Encouragement Becomes the Source of Self-Confidence ...... 202 * Positive Attitudes Stimulate Self-Confidence ...... 203 * "Places" Where You Can Feel Positive ...... 204 * Self-Efficacy Can Help ...... 205 Part 5 Putting Your Strength Into Good Use At Work I'LL... ...DO IT! 1-15_Resilience.indd 9 9/30/2022 5:44:24 PM What Is My Strength? ...... 208 01. Putting Strength to Good Use And Raising Resilience * What Is Strength? ...... 220 * Look for Strengths Rather Than Weak Points ...... 221 * Three Ways to Figure Out Your Strengths ...... 221 02. What Is a Rewarding Job? * The Definition of Working With Resilience ...... 225 * Three Views on Work ...... 226 * Let's Start With Putting Your Strength to Good Use ...... 228 Conclusion ...... 234