Out of Control
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All of us will be familiar with supporting friends, family and colleagues through the ups and downs of relationships. But could some of the more difficult times of argument and conflict be more than general relationship issues? Is there something more sinister going on?
Over the course of a lifetime, 30% of women and 16% of men will be subjected to abuse by a partner, yet so many of us are unsure exactly what constitutes domestic abuse, and wouldn't know how to react if we, or one of our friends or family, found ourselves in a relationship with an abuser.
Natalie Collins is the perfect guide to lead you through this subject, amassing over a decade's experience leading workshops, raising awareness and capturing national media attention in her work against domestic abuse.
Highly readable, invaluably insightful and steeped in theological insight, Natalie starts right from the basics, exploring what domestic abuse is, why it is perpetrated and the impact it has on children and adults. Filled with case studies, including Natalie's own story, this book offers much-needed advice on how we can address domestic abuse, both as individuals and as a church community.
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Natalie Collins has been working to address domestic abuse issues for over a decade, working directly with women subjected to abuse and domestic abuse perpetrators, and training ordinands, church leaders and congregations on domestic abuse issues. She has delivered keynote addresses both nationally and internationally on the subject, and has spoken alongside Archbishops and UN representatives. Natalie is also the founder of the 'Fifty Shades is Domestic Abuse' campaign and has appeared on national television, radio and printed media talking about abuse, consent and women's rights.
She has further written several articles and book contributions on domestic violence, and is the author of the widely used domestic abuse pack for UK churches, the Restored Church Pack.
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15 Chapter 2 - Bulldozing safety (Understanding harmful behaviour
in relationships)
39 Chapter 3 - It's not his diabetes (Why does he behave like that?)
64 Chapter 4 - What in the world is going on? (This is not only about
individuals and their relationships)
79 Chapter 5 - What would Jesus do? (All that theology stuff)
102 Chapter 6 - Why doesn't she just leave? (The question everyone
asks)
126 Chapter - Life can be beautiful (Dealing with sexual harm and
betrayal)
148 Chapter 8 - We did the best we could (Bringing up children with
a co-parent who is harmful)
169 Chapter 9 - It's all in your head (Trauma, emotional harm and all
the sciencey stuff)
189 Chapter 10 - Help! I don't know how to help (You can make a
difference)
211 Chapter 11 - There is no chrysalis season (Making a difference
for the next generation)
228 Chapter 12 - What does freedom look like? (Things can get
better)
237 Chapter 13 - Do real men hit women? (Well, do they?)
248 Chapter 14 - Can we end domestic abuse? (There is hope)
259 Appendix 1 - Signposting
262 Appendix 2 - Resources
266 Appendix 3 - Safety plan
279 Appendix 4 - Feeling words sheet
281 Notes
303 Index
