I AM ENOUGH-Recovering from Intimate Betrayal
Description
Anyone dealing with the addictive behavior of an intimate partner may suffer from feelings of insufficiency or not being enough. When your partner acts out sexually, you feel devastated and betrayed. This experience of intimate betrayal can blindside you to the point of not knowing where to turn. You can heal from the destructive effects of your relationship with a sex addict by prioritizing your needs, wants, values, and life. You come to realize I AM ENOUGH.
I AM ENOUGH-Recovering from Intimate Betrayal helps you live your 'enoughness' in all aspects of your life when facing your intimate partner's sexual acting out that betrays your trust.
This workbook for healing will help you to:
- Understand the impacts of your intimate partner's compulsive sexual behavior
- Reflect on your wants, needs, and values and recover your life priorities
- Move past the betrayal as you heal on all levels of body, mind, and self
I AM ENOUGH-Recovering from Intimate Betrayal, written from the perspective of someone who's been there, provides a blueprint for healing from the pain of living with an intimate partner's sex addiction. Accompany Molly through her journey of intimate betrayal and read other corroborating narratives. You'll learn about the nature of addiction and abuse and complete self-reflection exercises, which aim to help you understand the challenges and shame of a partner's sex addiction as you heal on all levels of body, mind, and self. This book will help you acquire useful tools to move past the betrayal, reclaim your joy, experience a healthier life, and develop trusting relationships with yourself and others.
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Table of Contents
Acknowledgments iii
Foreword xi
Introduction xiii
How You Can Use This Workbook xix
Chapter 1 - How Does Someone Else's Sexual Behavior Affect You? 1
Chapter 2 - The Discovery 21
Exercise 1: Putting My Feelings Into Words 27
Exercise 2: Drawing My Feelings 28
Exercise 3: What I Now See 30
Exercise 4: Family Legacy of Addiction 37
Exercise 5: Rescuing and Enabling 43
Exercise 6: The Impacts of Someone Else's Sexual Behavior 45
Exercise 7: Join a Support Group 51
Chapter 3 - Living the Cycle of Abuse 53
Exercise 8: My Safety Plan 76
Exercise 9: What Feels Abusive? 77
Chapter 4 - Grieving the Loss 79
Exercise 10: My Story 93
Exercise 11: My Resources 95
Chapter 5 - A Holistic Approach to Healing 97
Exercise 12: Adopt a Somatic Practice 100
Exercise 13: Mirror Mirror 101
Exercise 14: Two-Minute Meditation 106
Exercise 15: Learn About Sex Addiction 107
Exercise 16: How I Am Enough 109
Exercise 17: I AM... 109
Exercise 18: Letting Go-Allowing and Trusting 111
Exercise 19: Trusting My Inner Voice 114
Exercise 20: Trusting My Inner Knowing 114
Exercise 21: Adopt a Regular Holistic Healing Practice 120
Chapter 6 - Stopping and Starting 121
Exercise 22: My Stopping Work 128
Exercise 23: My Starting Work 129
Chapter 7 - Moving Forward 131
Exercise 24: What If...? 132
Exercise 25: If I Weren't Afraid, I Would... 134
Exercise 26: One Single Boundary 140
Exercise 27: Working Through 141
Exercise 28: What I will not Tolerate in an Intimate Relationship 143
Exercise 29: What I Don't Want in an Intimate Partner 143
Exercise 30: What I Want in an Intimate Partner 143
Exercise 31: How I Am Moving Forward 144
Exercise 32: Honest Conversations 150
Exercise 33: Staying 155
Exercise 34: Leaving 159
Exercise 35: What Triggers Me? 163
Exercise 36: My Priorities 169
Exercise 37: What Would I do If...? 169
Chapter 8 - Embracing the Gains 171
Exercise 38: My Gratitude Journal 172
Exercise 39: Prioritizing and Getting My Needs Met 179
Exercise 40: My Plan for Sexual Self-Expression 180
Exercise 41: Writing a Love Letter to Myself 180
Chapter 9 - Rewrite Your Story 183
Exercise 42: Visioning the Next Chapter of My Story 184
Exercise 43: What I've Learned that's Worth Remembering 186
Epilogue 187 Recommended Resources 191
Bibliography 193
