When Home Is Not Safe
Writings on Domestic Verbal, Emotional and Physical Abuse
Published on 3. September 2021
Book
Paperback/Softback
221 pages
978-1-4766-8392-8 (ISBN)
Description
Even if you haven't been hurt by domestic violence, someone you know has and wishes they could tell you about it. Perhaps you are a therapist, teacher, academic, or social worker who wants to help those who are suffering. Or maybe you are in an abusive relationship and need to know that you are not alone.
The poems, memoirs, and creative nonfiction pieces collected here tell of real incidents of abuse, as well as of those who left destructive and unsalvageable relationships. The beauty and truth of the language, as well as the honesty and courage, set this anthology apart from self-help manuals and academic treatises on domestic violence. This book offers a path forward to healing, health and fulfillment, using the power of art to give voice where voice has been stifled, forgotten, overlooked or denied.
The poems, memoirs, and creative nonfiction pieces collected here tell of real incidents of abuse, as well as of those who left destructive and unsalvageable relationships. The beauty and truth of the language, as well as the honesty and courage, set this anthology apart from self-help manuals and academic treatises on domestic violence. This book offers a path forward to healing, health and fulfillment, using the power of art to give voice where voice has been stifled, forgotten, overlooked or denied.
Reviews / Votes
"Anthologies so often hold one subject up, turn it this way and that, show us crevices and winks of insight, make connections we haven't before perceived. Judith Skillman and Linera Lucas's recent anthology about domestic abuse does just that.... This is a book of collected truths, a conversation about the facets of abuse.... Skillman and Lucas clarify the nuance of abuse from the beginning, through the title, and their introduction defines and describes how it can be loud or quiet.... I'm amazed at the hard and clear power of the language of many of these writers and stories. These writers have not only endured abuse but offer psychological clarity for those who need it."-Literary Mama "When Home Is Not Safe brings a necessary voice to the silent and all-pervasive epidemic of domestic abuse among us. This is a powerful anthology-healing for the writer, eye-opening for the reader. As a therapist and a poet, I highly recommend this collection."-Gayle Kaune MSW, LICSW, author, Noise from Stars "This anthology on a wide range of abuse is alive in its varied writings, both prose and poetry. The full sensory experience of domestic violence reveals human suffering, as well as triumph over trauma. The sheer existence of these writings is memorable; this is a must read for educators, social workers, and all those in the field of domestic abuse."-Ellen Katz, PhD, MSW, RSW, University of Toronto, Ontario, Canada "How are we to receive and make use of these cries of the heart? These writings serve as sociological evidence of the imposition of the disturbed narratives of the powerful upon the vulnerable, in our domestic lives. I see them as reminders of the need to assure victims that their narratives matter more, and that the shame of what was done lies with the perpetrators."-Patty Cannon MA LMHC, psychotherapist, Seattle, Washington.More details
Language
English
Place of publication
Jefferson, NC
United States
Target group
Professional and scholarly
Interest Age: From 18 years
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Illustrations
notes, index
Dimensions
Height: 229 mm
Width: 152 mm
Thickness: 13 mm
Weight
368 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-4766-8392-8 (9781476683928)
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Schweitzer Classification
Persons
Judith Skillman is the recipient of awards from the Academy of American Poets and Artist Trust, and has published twenty collections of poetry. She is a faculty member at the Hugo House in Seattle, Washington. Linera Lucas won the Crucible Fiction Prize and her poetry and short stories have been widely published. She has taught at the University of Washington Women's Center and Hugo House in Seattle.
Content
Table of Contents
Preface by Judith Skillman and Linera Lucas
Introduction by Judith Skillman and Linera Lucas
I-Home
Heidi Seaborn
Weather
Drafting a Flight Plan
Jennifer Jenkins
Hit Me
Susan April
The Ballet
Howie Good
Anger Is an Arrow
Stick Figure Family
The Secret Goldfish
Emma Brousseau
What's True of the Garden Pea
Wren Tuatha
Fissure
Chelsea Clammer
Balcony, 3 a.m.
Nina Fosati
Her Father's Daughter
RK Taylor
holy / days
Lynn Magill
You Smiled
Michael
Cynthia Steele
Words "Too Dark" for the Father's Day Edition
Kurt Olsson
Packs
Drowned
The Best of a Bad Year
J. Flynn Doncaster
Ever Closer
II-Trauma
Lindsay Erdman
Abroad
LeeAnn Olivier
Kintsugi
Aimee Parkison
Girl in Rape Kit
Victoria Elizabeth Ruwi
A Slice of Summer
Mary Ellen Talley
Wine Song
How to Survive Abuse
A Steady Whip
Ogu Chukwuebuka Kizito
Voices from the Streets
Carolyne Wright
Mandamientos: Lover to Beloved
I Forgive
Paul Rousseau
Kitchen Table
Jonaki
It Wasn't the First Time He Hit Me
Darlene Goetzman
Reading the Lines
Anne Spollen
From Where I Live Now
Izzy Wilson
Why Are They Fighting?
Christina Hoag
When His Words Became a Drug
Amelia Goldman
The Fixer
Sally Quon
Beginnings
Gayelene Carbis
His face Right in My Face
The Weight of Words in Our Hands Like Water
This is What Happened
Kelsey Brown
A Game of Cat and Mouse
Polly Buckingham
Excerpt-The Queen in the Mirror
III-PTSD
Tina Barry
Pine
Roxanne James
Counting Raindrops
Lillo
Pearls Before Swine
Sally Showalter
Stone Lies
H.M. Clark
Fire Line
Danielle Hark
I Keep Secrets Stashed in a Lock Box
Abandoned Doll
Cold Sheets
Secrets Stashed in Tiny Orange Pill Bottles
Lexy Courneya
Memoir Excerpts
Memoir Excerpts II
Joyce Hayden
The Out of Body Girl
Marjorie Maddox
Eiffel Tower
On a Hot Summer Night for Revenge
The Truth of Lies, The Lies of Truth
Sharp.
IV-In Retrospect
Susan Landgraf
The Woman Who Held Her Tongue
Carol Smallwood
House of Cards
A Picnic
Rosanne Ehrlich
-Two-Year Slide in Brooklyn Heights
Linera Lucas
Saddle Up
Signal
Lindsey Heatherly
Weaving Rope
Robert Kingett
My First Online Love
Alice Ting
Tug of War
Judith Skillman
Trellis
Years Later
Jeff Burd
Lost in Transmission
Mary Zelinka
Last Supper
Sailor Holladay
Red Flag
Alison Stone
Heretic
Tina Kelley
Pushed Out of the Chevy, She Adjusts Her Miniskirt
Meggie Royer
Twenty Years of Rain
Acknowledgments
Acknowledgments of Previously Published Work
Notes
About the Contributors
Index
Preface by Judith Skillman and Linera Lucas
Introduction by Judith Skillman and Linera Lucas
I-Home
Heidi Seaborn
Weather
Drafting a Flight Plan
Jennifer Jenkins
Hit Me
Susan April
The Ballet
Howie Good
Anger Is an Arrow
Stick Figure Family
The Secret Goldfish
Emma Brousseau
What's True of the Garden Pea
Wren Tuatha
Fissure
Chelsea Clammer
Balcony, 3 a.m.
Nina Fosati
Her Father's Daughter
RK Taylor
holy / days
Lynn Magill
You Smiled
Michael
Cynthia Steele
Words "Too Dark" for the Father's Day Edition
Kurt Olsson
Packs
Drowned
The Best of a Bad Year
J. Flynn Doncaster
Ever Closer
II-Trauma
Lindsay Erdman
Abroad
LeeAnn Olivier
Kintsugi
Aimee Parkison
Girl in Rape Kit
Victoria Elizabeth Ruwi
A Slice of Summer
Mary Ellen Talley
Wine Song
How to Survive Abuse
A Steady Whip
Ogu Chukwuebuka Kizito
Voices from the Streets
Carolyne Wright
Mandamientos: Lover to Beloved
I Forgive
Paul Rousseau
Kitchen Table
Jonaki
It Wasn't the First Time He Hit Me
Darlene Goetzman
Reading the Lines
Anne Spollen
From Where I Live Now
Izzy Wilson
Why Are They Fighting?
Christina Hoag
When His Words Became a Drug
Amelia Goldman
The Fixer
Sally Quon
Beginnings
Gayelene Carbis
His face Right in My Face
The Weight of Words in Our Hands Like Water
This is What Happened
Kelsey Brown
A Game of Cat and Mouse
Polly Buckingham
Excerpt-The Queen in the Mirror
III-PTSD
Tina Barry
Pine
Roxanne James
Counting Raindrops
Lillo
Pearls Before Swine
Sally Showalter
Stone Lies
H.M. Clark
Fire Line
Danielle Hark
I Keep Secrets Stashed in a Lock Box
Abandoned Doll
Cold Sheets
Secrets Stashed in Tiny Orange Pill Bottles
Lexy Courneya
Memoir Excerpts
Memoir Excerpts II
Joyce Hayden
The Out of Body Girl
Marjorie Maddox
Eiffel Tower
On a Hot Summer Night for Revenge
The Truth of Lies, The Lies of Truth
Sharp.
IV-In Retrospect
Susan Landgraf
The Woman Who Held Her Tongue
Carol Smallwood
House of Cards
A Picnic
Rosanne Ehrlich
-Two-Year Slide in Brooklyn Heights
Linera Lucas
Saddle Up
Signal
Lindsey Heatherly
Weaving Rope
Robert Kingett
My First Online Love
Alice Ting
Tug of War
Judith Skillman
Trellis
Years Later
Jeff Burd
Lost in Transmission
Mary Zelinka
Last Supper
Sailor Holladay
Red Flag
Alison Stone
Heretic
Tina Kelley
Pushed Out of the Chevy, She Adjusts Her Miniskirt
Meggie Royer
Twenty Years of Rain
Acknowledgments
Acknowledgments of Previously Published Work
Notes
About the Contributors
Index