
How Not to F*ck Up Your Marriage
Straight talk from a divorce lawyer who's seen it all
James Sexton(Author)
Vermilion (Publisher)
Published on 17. July 2025
Book
Paperback/Softback
288 pages
978-1-78504-612-4 (ISBN)
Description
'Who would have guessed that the person who gives the best advice about marriage was the guy responsible for getting you out of yours?' - New York Times
'Brutally honest and wildly useful' - Steven Bartlett
James J. Sexton has spent over two decades in the trenches of high-stakes divorce - watching good people tear each other apart over bad communication, broken trust and problems that could've been solved early on. If they'd only known what to look for.
How Not to F*ck Up Your Marriage is what he wishes every couple had read before it was too late. This book is an early warning system, a no-punches-pulled guide to the small mistakes, blind spots, and lazy habits that quietly destroy relationships - and the real work it takes to stay in love for the long haul.
From emotional drift to financial landmines to social-media sabotaging, from sex to silence to the granola box that finally breaks you, this is a deeply practical, deeply funny guide to protecting your connection, resolving conflict before it escalates and staying close through real life.
Whether you're in a relationship, out of one, or wondering if yours will last, this is the relationship book written by someone who has seen how they end - and who, despite it all, still believes in love.
Published by FlightStory Books.
'Brutally honest and wildly useful' - Steven Bartlett
James J. Sexton has spent over two decades in the trenches of high-stakes divorce - watching good people tear each other apart over bad communication, broken trust and problems that could've been solved early on. If they'd only known what to look for.
How Not to F*ck Up Your Marriage is what he wishes every couple had read before it was too late. This book is an early warning system, a no-punches-pulled guide to the small mistakes, blind spots, and lazy habits that quietly destroy relationships - and the real work it takes to stay in love for the long haul.
From emotional drift to financial landmines to social-media sabotaging, from sex to silence to the granola box that finally breaks you, this is a deeply practical, deeply funny guide to protecting your connection, resolving conflict before it escalates and staying close through real life.
Whether you're in a relationship, out of one, or wondering if yours will last, this is the relationship book written by someone who has seen how they end - and who, despite it all, still believes in love.
Published by FlightStory Books.
More details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Ebury Publishing
Product notice
Paperback (UK-B)
Dimensions
Height: 194 mm
Width: 126 mm
Thickness: 23 mm
Weight
206 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-78504-612-4 (9781785046124)
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E-Book
07/2025
Ebury Digital
€9.49
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Person
James Sexton is a New York-based lawyer focusing his practice exclusively in divorce and family law. Sexton is a widely sought after expert on divorce-related issues and the author of two books on preventing divorce and maintaining a happy marriage. Find him on Instagram: @nycdivorcelawyer