Come Closer
On love and self-protection
Published on 18. May 2017
Book
Paperback/Softback
104 pages
978-1-78592-297-8 (ISBN)
Description
Everyone engages in self-protecting behaviours to some extent, but when these begin to take on the form of bad habits, they can be damaging. People often use self-protection strategies in love and relationships to mitigate potential pain or heartbreak. This book considers the defence mechanisms inadvertently used to avoid closeness with other people, the inner self, and reality and any resulting distress from confrontation with these bodies.
This book will teach you how to recognise specific protective behaviours that hinder close relationships and why we engage in them. By understanding the source of these patterns and objectively considering the alternatives, the author will guide you on the path to overcome negative protection strategies and embrace positive relationships. With a foundation in psychology, this book will also be of interest to professional counsellors and therapists.
This book will teach you how to recognise specific protective behaviours that hinder close relationships and why we engage in them. By understanding the source of these patterns and objectively considering the alternatives, the author will guide you on the path to overcome negative protection strategies and embrace positive relationships. With a foundation in psychology, this book will also be of interest to professional counsellors and therapists.
Reviews / Votes
A powerful book that has given me new and valuable knowledge about my self. -- Cecilie Larsen, reader. This book is a must-read for parents, couples, and everyone else who wants positive relationships. -- Gitte L., reader When I read "Come Closer", the content seemed both new and obvious at the same time as I recognised myself in several of the book's examples. In the past, I have wondered about some of my behavior patterns, but now I understand them better. I'm glad that somebody gave me this book and for the new insights it has given me. -- Palle, 61 years old, reader Come Closer helps you unearth those self-protection strategies you didn't know you had and don't know what to do with. Ilse Sand gets them out in the open where she shows you how to dismantle them, one by one, and allow yourself to become rooted, instead, in security, self-acceptance and love. -- Deborah Ward, HSP and Personal Growth Writer This book is beautifully written, using helpful examples to illustrate each point. It made me think about how to deepen relationships in ways that I had never considered before, and I have been a couples' therapist for 25 years! A brilliant book that will help you to be closer to yourself, your lived reality, and thus to others. -- Juliet Grayson, UKCP Registered Psychosexual Therapist & Author of Landscapes of the Heart, the working world of a sex and relationship therapistMore details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Target group
College/higher education
Professional and scholarly
Product notice
Paperback (UK-trade)
Dimensions
Height: 216 mm
Width: 141 mm
Thickness: 12 mm
Weight
127 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-78592-297-8 (9781785922978)
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Schweitzer Classification
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Additional editions
E-Book
05/2017
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
€11.99
Available for download
Person
Ilse Sand is a psychotherapist, public speaker and author of several self-help books. She specialises in counselling highly sensitive people. She is based in Denmark.
Content
Foreword. Introduction. 1. Self-protection strategies. 2. When self-protection strategies become automatic. 3. Fear of closeness, grief, and loss of control. 4. Negative patterns that can hinder a successful love life. 5. Parental idealisation. 6. A feeling of total consciousness. 7. Dismantling inappropriate self-protection strategies. 8. The way home. Acknowledgements. Bibliography.