The Splitting Up

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"This book takes us on a passionate journey into the emotional process of break-ups and the dynamics that drive the partners into closeness distance acrimony .... The authors draw upon vast clinical experience and a solid grasp of intrapsychic phenomena, personality development, and family systems theory to provide a landmark contribution to the understanding and treatment of couples." - Jo-Ann M. Rivera, PhD

"This book reveals an internally consistent psychic logic' behind the wildly irrational feelings and behaviors that people frequently experience when going through a divorce. The concepts presented here have benefited my clinical practice enormously in the ten years since I was first introduced to Dr. Pam's work as a psychiatric resident." -

Daniela V. Gitlin, MD

"Provides a remarkably insightful and scrupulously researched portrait of divorce--its causes, its social and psychological context, and its profound effects on individuals and families. Refusing to look away from large moral questions, or to minimize the suffering caused by feelings of rage, abandonment, and betrayal, the book holds a mirror up to our times and helps us understand the painful struggles that accompany loss in family life, and in love." - Jay Neugeboren, author of Imagining Robert: My Brother, Madness, and Survival "This book takes us on a passionate journey into the emotional process of break-ups and the dynamics that drive the partners into closeness-distance acrimony. Written with clarity and depth, the book embeds the individual, dyad, and family in a social context emphasizing individualism and instant gratification. The authors draw upon vast clinical experience and a solid grasp of intrapsychic phenomena, personality development, and family systems theory to provide a landmark contribution to the understanding and treatment of couples." --Jo-Ann M. Rivera, PhD, Bronx Psychiatric Center, Albert Einstein College of Medicine

"This book reveals an internally consistent 'psychic logic' behind the wildly irrational feelings and behaviors that people frequently experience when going through a divorce. The concepts presented here have benefited my clinical practice enormously in the ten years since I was first introduced to Dr. Pam's work as a psychiatric resident. Eminently relevant and practical, this book is a 'must-read' for anyone interested in the passions of interpersonal relationships." --Daniela V. Gitlin, MD, Plattsburgh, NY

"One of the most enlightening books I have read in years. Splitting Up provides a remarkably insightful and scrupulously researched portrait of divorce--its causes, its social and psychological context, and its profound effects on individuals and families. Refusing to look away from large moral questions, or to minimize the suffering caused by feelings of rage, abandonment, and betrayal, the book holds a mirror up to our times and helps us understand the painful struggles that accompany loss in family life and in love. Essential reading for therapists, counselors, and anyone who has ever gone through the breakup of a serious relationship." --Jay Neugeboren, author of Imagining Robert

"A 'must' both for counselors working with couples either contemplating or dealing with divorce, and for the individuals struggling over the issues that arise in such situations." --From the Foreword by James Masterson, MD