How Do I Sexy?
A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers
Published on 23. August 2024
Book
Paperback/Softback
264 pages
978-1-990869-53-2 (ISBN)
Description
What even is 'sexy,' and how do you do it? A tough question for trans and nonbinary queers struggling to find their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic ideals and expectations. In How Do I Sexy? Mx. Nillin Lore provides affirming and helpful direction based on over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an educator, advocate, support worker and award-winning sex blogger. You're invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You'll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Nillin Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen-both in the streets and between the sheets.
Reviews / Votes
"How Do I Sexy? is a fantastic read and a book that's worth keeping on the shelf for reference or revisiting."-Bending the Bookshelf "How Do I Sexy? isn't just a good book, it's a vital and sorely needed one. LGBTQ+ young people are still rarely represented in mainstream sex education. Many of us make it to adulthood with very little knowledge of our bodies, our sexualities, and how to engage intimately with others. This book is like a warm, comforting hug that says 'hey, you're lovable-and sexy-exactly as you are!' It's both a celebration and an invitation. No matter where you are in your queer, trans or non-binary journey, there will be something in here for you."-Coffee & KinkMore details
Language
English
Place of publication
Canada
Dimensions
Height: 203 mm
Width: 133 mm
Thickness: 16 mm
Weight
339 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-990869-53-2 (9781990869532)
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Schweitzer Classification
Other editions
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E-Book
08/2024
Thornapple Press
€14.49
Available for download
Persons
Mx. Nillin Lore is a trans and queer activist, advocate, and educator based in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. They have published queer erotica stories in a number of anthologies including Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year volumes 4- 6 and The Big Book of Orgasms Volume 2 (Cleis Press). They co-authorred a chapter of Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (Oxford University Press) and are the editor of Heckin' Lewd: Trans and Nonbinary Erotica and Emerging Selves: An Exploration of Gender Identity (Bold Strokes Books).
Content
Foreword
Acknowledgements
Chapter One: The Ventura Effect
Chapter Two: What the Hell Even is "Sexy"?
Chapter Three: Coping With Fear, Shame, Guilt, and Insecurity
Chapter Four: Making Your Personal Mantras
Chapter Five: Saying No to Traditional Gender Roles; and Other Harmful Ideals
Chapter Six: Get Your Sexy On
Chapter Seven: Dating, Flirting, and Finding Community
Chapter Eight: Trans Queer Affirming Sex; What It Is and How To Have It
Conclusion
Glossary
Resources
Index
Acknowledgements
Chapter One: The Ventura Effect
Chapter Two: What the Hell Even is "Sexy"?
Chapter Three: Coping With Fear, Shame, Guilt, and Insecurity
Chapter Four: Making Your Personal Mantras
Chapter Five: Saying No to Traditional Gender Roles; and Other Harmful Ideals
Chapter Six: Get Your Sexy On
Chapter Seven: Dating, Flirting, and Finding Community
Chapter Eight: Trans Queer Affirming Sex; What It Is and How To Have It
Conclusion
Glossary
Resources
Index