Reptiles in Love
Ending Destructive Fights and Evolving Toward More Loving Relationships
1st Edition
Published on 22. June 2012
Book
Paperback/Softback
268 pages
978-1-118-43620-2 (ISBN)
Description
Nagging, snide comments, passive-aggressive tendencies, running away, childish insults; sometimes even the most loving couples can revert to their primitive nature. Don Ferguson, a psychologist and relationship therapist, has discovered that no matter how evolved we think we are, our reptilian brain is still primed for instantaneous reactions and fight-or-flight. This syndrome can rule relationships and in the end destroy them. Through the latest neurological research, Ferguson has discovered how to manage our primitive reactions with thoughtful, 'new brain' interventions. Written in a highly entertaining and readable way, Reptiles in Love has an answer for helping couples to stop attacking each other and transform their dysfunctional, prehistoric relationship into a more evolved and loving partnership.
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Language
English
Place of publication
New York
United States
Publishing group
John Wiley & Sons Inc
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Unsewn / adhesive bound
Dimensions
Height: 229 mm
Width: 152 mm
Thickness: 15 mm
Weight
393 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-118-43620-2 (9781118436202)
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Reptiles in Love
Ending Destructive Fights and Evolving Toward More Loving Relationships
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Don Ferguson Ph.D. has been a leading teacher, trainer, and practitioner in the field of relationships and couples therapy for more than 20 years. He has presented hundreds of seminars and trainings to organizations and groups of psychiatrists, psychologists, and psychotherapists, and specifically has developed the Reptiles in Love program to the point where it is well researched, presented and taught frequently to professionals, and applied successfully by many couples who have benefited from it over the years. (See his websites: www.reptilesinlove.com, and www.donfergusonseminars.com. Presently staff Psychologist, he was formerly the Clinical Director for Psychiatry at Dean Health System, a major health care provider in Madison, Wisconsin.
Content
Preface: Be Like Elvis! But Less Dead vii
Introduction 1
Part I: Understanding the Reptile in Us
1. The Dinosaur Legacy: Why We Fight Poorly 13
2. Lizard Madness: Understanding Methods and Cycles in Stupid Fighting 35
Part II: Five Steps to Ending Destructive Fights and Evolving Toward More Loving Relationships
3. Step One: Assess Your Relationship 61
4. Step Two: Learn to Communicate in a Nonreptilian Manner 89
5. Step Three: Clarify Your Needs and Fears Together 109
6. Step Four: Add Positives and Build Intimacy 129
7. Step Five: Learn Nonreptilian Lovemaking 147
Part III: Special Issues for Evolving Reptiles
8. Once Bitten . . . : Surviving Betrayal 169
9. Reptiles in Therapy: An Introduction to Couples Therapy 193
10. Pure Divorce: If You Must, End and Leave Fully Human 209
Afterword: A Few Words in Closing 223
Notes 225
Resources 235
About the Author 247
Index 249
Introduction 1
Part I: Understanding the Reptile in Us
1. The Dinosaur Legacy: Why We Fight Poorly 13
2. Lizard Madness: Understanding Methods and Cycles in Stupid Fighting 35
Part II: Five Steps to Ending Destructive Fights and Evolving Toward More Loving Relationships
3. Step One: Assess Your Relationship 61
4. Step Two: Learn to Communicate in a Nonreptilian Manner 89
5. Step Three: Clarify Your Needs and Fears Together 109
6. Step Four: Add Positives and Build Intimacy 129
7. Step Five: Learn Nonreptilian Lovemaking 147
Part III: Special Issues for Evolving Reptiles
8. Once Bitten . . . : Surviving Betrayal 169
9. Reptiles in Therapy: An Introduction to Couples Therapy 193
10. Pure Divorce: If You Must, End and Leave Fully Human 209
Afterword: A Few Words in Closing 223
Notes 225
Resources 235
About the Author 247
Index 249