Rough
How violence has found its way into the bedroom and what we can do about it
Published on 26. August 2021
368 pages
978-1-4735-8803-5 (ISBN)
Description
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Rough is a revolutionary non-fiction work exploring the narratives of sexual violence that we don't talk about.
A bad sexual experience.
A grey area.
Not rape but... A violation .
These are the terms we use to describe the experiences we don't have words for. The way we talk about topics such as sex, consent, assault aren't fit for purpose.
Through powerful testimony from 50 women and non-binary people, this book shines a light on the sexual violence that takes place in our bedrooms and beyond, sometimes at the hands of people we know, trust, or even love. Rough investigates violations such as 'stealthing,' non-consensual choking, and non-consensual rough sex acts that our culture is only starting to recognise as sexual violence.
The book explores the ways in which systems of oppression manifest in our sexual culture - from racist microaggressions, to fatphobic acts of aggression, and ableist dehumanising behaviour. An intersectional, sex-positive, kink-positive work, the book also examines how white supremacy, transphobia, biphobia, homophobia, and misogyny are driving forces behind sexual violence.
Rough is an urgent, timely call for change to the systems that oppress us all.
'An incredible investigation into a frighteningly common part of our sexual experience,' Dr Fern Riddell
'Rough speaks to how many women often feel after sexual encounters ...This book is excellent and demonstrates just how valid those feelings are,' Adele Walton, founder of Humanitarian Hotgirl
Rough is a revolutionary non-fiction work exploring the narratives of sexual violence that we don't talk about.
A bad sexual experience.
A grey area.
Not rape but... A violation .
These are the terms we use to describe the experiences we don't have words for. The way we talk about topics such as sex, consent, assault aren't fit for purpose.
Through powerful testimony from 50 women and non-binary people, this book shines a light on the sexual violence that takes place in our bedrooms and beyond, sometimes at the hands of people we know, trust, or even love. Rough investigates violations such as 'stealthing,' non-consensual choking, and non-consensual rough sex acts that our culture is only starting to recognise as sexual violence.
The book explores the ways in which systems of oppression manifest in our sexual culture - from racist microaggressions, to fatphobic acts of aggression, and ableist dehumanising behaviour. An intersectional, sex-positive, kink-positive work, the book also examines how white supremacy, transphobia, biphobia, homophobia, and misogyny are driving forces behind sexual violence.
Rough is an urgent, timely call for change to the systems that oppress us all.
'An incredible investigation into a frighteningly common part of our sexual experience,' Dr Fern Riddell
'Rough speaks to how many women often feel after sexual encounters ...This book is excellent and demonstrates just how valid those feelings are,' Adele Walton, founder of Humanitarian Hotgirl
Reviews / Votes
Rough is one of the most comprehensive and interesting books I've ever read. I recommend it to all my friends and patients as essential reading in the world of psychosexual therapy. I cannot say enough good things about it. You won't put it down. * Gigi Engle, author of 'All The F*ing Mistakes' * An unflinching examination of the damaging sexual narratives often hidden or less talked about, Rough looks at the way culture and gender perceptions influence our behaviour in bed. Thompson's writing is burning and unapologetic, and contracts with sharpness and verve. An important, thought-provoking read which renders systems and personal attitudes, and starts a helpful dialogue (in a hope to) to kindle positive change. * Nataliya Deleva, author of 'Arrival' * This is indispensable reading for anyone who wants both breadth and detail in how sexual consent is expressed, understood and all too often violated. Rough is inclusive and sympathetic writing that, importantly, remains sex positive and optimistic for a future with more knowledge and more power. It's consent writing that would make anyone want to change the world from one of the UK's leading voices on the issue. * Sophia Smith Galer, author of 'Losing It' * Rough speaks to how many women often feel after sexual encounters - violated but unsure of exactly why, and whether our feelings are valid. This book is excellent and demonstrates just how valid those feelings are. * Adele Walton, founder of Humanitarian Hotgirl * An incredible investigation into a frighteningly common part of our sexual experience; determined to give ownership back to those who have had their agency stolen from them. * Dr Fern Riddell * You need to read this. * Mashable * 2021's most important book about sex. * Stylist *More details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Random House (Digital)
Target group
College/higher education
Professional and scholarly
File size
1,41 MB
ISBN-13
978-1-4735-8803-5 (9781473588035)
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08/2021
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Person
Rachel Thompson is a British author and journalist specialising in sex, dating, and relationships. Her first book Rough: How Violence Has Found Its Way Into the Bedroom And What We Can Do About It, an investigation into sexual violence, was published by Square Peg (Vintage) in August 2021. Stylist called Rough "2021's most important book about sex". Rachel is the Features Editor at Mashable and a leading sex and relationships writer in the UK who has written for GQ, The Guardian, The Sunday Times Style, British Glamour, Stylist, ELLE, The Telegraph, CNN, HuffPost, and more.
