Loving an Imperfect Man
Stop Waiting for Him to Make You Happy and Start Getting What You Want Out of Life
1st Edition
Published on 1. February 1997
320 pages
978-0-7434-2462-2 (ISBN)
Description
This groundbreaking guide is for every woman who is ready to create a stronger, healthier, more satisfying partnership. Unlike other relationship books, which focus on changing a mate, Loving an Imperfect Man provides a road map to a totally different path -- a path whose focus is solely on you...your personal growth, your healing, your getting in touch with your inner worth.
"I'm perfectly happy with the man in my life."
After spending more than ten years working with thousands of women, nationally acclaimed lecturer and bestselling author Ellen Sue Stern is convinced that deep within every woman's heart, that ideal is what she yearns for. The good news is that despite their discontent, the majority of women remain committed to the possibility of improving their relationships. The bad news is that many women are starting to run out of ideas, patience...and time.
Put yourself in charge -- now -- and stop waiting for your partner to fulfill your dreams. Loving an Imperfect Man is the winning blueprint to discovering how to love and accept your man for who he is...and reinvest your energy toward becoming the strong, powerful, and deserving woman you truly are.
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Ellen Sue Stern is the founder of Expecting Change Workshops, president of Stern Literary Consulting and the author of 17 books with nearly a million books in print, translated to twelve languages.
Content
- Cover
- Praise
- Also By
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Dedication
- ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
- Contents
- 1
- Men just don't get it
- I just wish he'd . . .
- We teach what we need to learn
- Falling in love with ourselves
- 2
- The power of self-love
- The damage of self-loathing
- Redefining perfection
- A working road map
- The journey from fear to love
- 3
- Romantic sobriety
- Overcoming our resistance
- The importance of grief
- Disillusionment: A positive process
- Dealing with him
- What are YOU giving?
- Compatibility
- Chemistry
- Affinity
- Purpose and Destiny
- 4
- Our highest vision of ourselves
- Intention and action
- Overcoming our resistance
- Dealing with him
- Making commitments
- 5
- Accepting our singularity
- Are we really liberated?
- Overcoming our resistance
- Economic independence
- Practical competence
- Emotional autonomy
- What men can teach us about autonomy
- Spiritual foundation
- Dealing with him
- Sound investments
- Emotional currency
- Wise spending
- Why can't he read my mind?
- Fear of conflict
- But can he deliver?
- 6
- Strengthening ourselves
- Overcoming our resistance
- What men can teach us about "selfishness"
- What we can teach men about giving
- Nourishing ourselves
- Nutrition assessment
- Stretching our bodies
- Sensuality
- Eroticism
- Safety and passion
- What men can teach us about sex
- What we can teach men about sex and love
- Dealing with him
- Nurturing ourselves
- Creativity
- Mothering
- Nature
- Beauty
- Retreat and ritual
- Cleaning up our act
- Cleaning up our act
- Making discerning choices
- Beyond codependence
- Presence: A powerful alternative
- Filling our toolbox
- Surrender: The balance between attachment and detachment
- Overcoming our resistance
- Measures of discernment
- What men can teach us about being rational
- What we can teach men about feelings
- The concept of service
- Dealing with him
- The concept of service
- Permeable boundaries
- Holding on to anger
- Overcoming our resistance
- Opening our wounds
- Identifying the source of our anger
- Expressing our feelings
- Should you or shouldn't you?
- Four steps to productively expressing anger
- Honoring our needs
- Dealing with him
- What men can teach us about keeping it simple
- What we can teach men about emotional processing
- The nature of forgiveness
- Honoring our needs
- Overcoming our resistance
- Intention
- Initiative
- Inspiration
- Intelligence
- Imagination
- Your role: Teacher
- Your role: Student
- Your role: Inventor
- Your role: Empathic
- Your role: Social Director
- Your role: Seductress
- Your role: Parent
- Your role: Cheerleader
- Your role: Healer
- A bittersweet eleventh act
- Imagination
- Making our relationship a sanctuary
- Being a blessing
- Intentional acts of kindness
- Intentional acts of gratitude
- Intentional acts of celebration
- Afterword
- About the author
