Dating and Sex
Description
The doctrine of mutually assured destruction (MAD) is a fitting analogy and guide for dating and sex and the types of bonds that we form from these interpersonal relationships. Why some couples stay together (or why some bonds last) and why others ultimately split up (and why some bonds crash), often speaks to self-preservation. People in relationships - serious or casual - stay in or leave those relationships based on what Said calls the "theory of mutual self-destruction" (TMSD). As an umbrella term, TMSD serves as an excellent pathway to exploring the nature of dating and sexual relationships.
Dating & Sex: The Theory of Mutual Self-Destruction is an anthology of essays written by a number of different writers from all walks a life, from around the world. Edited by Amir Said, this profound and in-depth collection offers a great deal of insight into relationships, modern dating, and sex.
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Content
- Intro
- Title Page
- Copyright Page
- Contents
- Introduction
- Toxic Love
- Twenty-Six Days
- In Search of A Quick Fix
- How I Was Cheated On In An Open Marriage.Twice
- 3 Mini Agreements to Make with Your Partner
- The Dutch Girl Will Be My Ruin
- Cross-generational Desire and the Fallacy of the Father Complex
- Opening Things Up
- The Rush of Pain
- When I'm the One Who Cheats
- We Can't Save Each Other Again
- My Dungeon Love Affair
- Six Years In A Sexless Relationship Meant I Had To Learn How To Orgasm All Over Again
- Love and Other Accidents
- The Joys of Dating an Older Woman
- Ten cuidado: A Lesson in Colorism for Boricuas (...or, Why Have I Only Dated White People?)
- Weight and Dates
- Kink-Adoring HumanBeing
- The Hoe Phase
- Karma Is A Car Crash
- Never Fucking A Guy Who Has A Podcast Again
- After the Third Strike, How Do We Stay Together?
- Make Mine A Double
- What Happened When My Boyfriend Became My Girlfriend
- Panda With A Gun
- Life of Bi
- My Best Friend's Unintentional Role In my Sex Drive
- Gay Rapunzel
- Self-Destruction In the Name of Black Love
- All the Weight Is Not Yours
- Threesome
- No Longer Terrified to Be Myself
- Dom By Day, Sub By Night
- The Purity Ceremony
- The Nuclear Option
- How Casual Sex Turned Into A Toxic Relationship With A White Supremacist
- Ugly Couple
- ABOUT THE AUTHORS
- ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
- ABOUT THE EDITOR
