The Language of Love and Respect
Description
A Revolutionary Solution to the #1 Marriage Problem
Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? "Because," says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, "most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in 'code,' but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect."
Dr. Eggerichs' best-selling book, Love & Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other. In The Language of Love & Respect, he presents a practical, step-by-step approach for how husbands and wives can learn to speak each other's distinctly different language-respect for him, love for her. The result is mutual understanding and a successful, happy marriage.
Previously released as Cracking the Communication Code
More details
Other editions
Additional editions
Person
Emerson Eggerichs, PhD, is an internationally known communication expert and author of the New York Times bestseller Love & Respect. Just as Dr. Eggerichs transformed millions of marital relationships with a biblical understanding of love and respect, he also turned these principles to one of the most important relationships of all in Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. As a communication expert, Emerson has also spoken to groups such as the NFL, NBA, PGA, US Navy SEALs and members of Congress. He was the senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for almost twenty years. Emerson holds a PhD in child and family ecology from Michigan State University, a BA in Biblical Studies from Wheaton College, an MA in communications from Wheaton College Graduate School, and an MDiv from the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary. He and his wife Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three adult children.
Content
- Intro
- TITLE PAGE
- COPYRIGHT PAGE
- DEDICATION
- CONTENTS
- ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
- PREFACE
- TO GET THE MOST FROM THIS BOOK
- INTRODUCTION IS COMMUNICATION REALLY THE KEY TO MARRIAGE?
- PART I: A Book Within a Book
- CHAPTER ONE: A SHORT COURSE ON LOVE AND RESPECT
- PART II: THREE VITAL TRUTHS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION
- CHAPTER TWO: IN MARRIAGE, THE MOUTH MATTERS
- CHAPTER THREE: NOT WRONG, JUST DIFFERENT
- CHAPTER FOUR: CAN YOU TRUST YOUR SPOUSE'S GOODWILL? (CAN YOUR SPOUSE TRUST YOURS?)
- PART III: THE CRAZY CYCLE:A RELENTLESS ENEMY OF MARITAL COMMUNICATION
- CHAPTER FIVE: DECODE-AND STOP THE CRAZY CYCLE
- CHAPTER SIX: "OUCH! YOU'RE STEPPING ON MY AIR HOSE!"
- CHAPTER SEVEN: FORGIVENESS: THE ULTIMATE STRATEGY FOR HALTING THE CRAZY CYCLE
- PART IV: THE ENERGIZING CYCLE: TO BETTER COMMUNICATE, MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS
- CHAPTER EIGHT: ENJOY WIN-WIN COMMUNICATION ON THE ENERGIZING CYCLE
- CHAPTER NINE: DECODE-AND THEN USE C-H-A-I-R-S TO ENERGIZE HIM
- CHAPTER TEN: DECODE-AND THEN USE C-O-U-P-L-E TO ENERGIZE HER
- CHAPTER ELEVEN: DEALING WITH THE EVERYDAY CHALLENGE
- CHAPTER TWELVE: MORE STRATEGIES FOR DEALING WITH COMMUNICATION GLITCHES
- PART V: THE REWARDED CYCLE: THE UNCONDITIONAL DIMENSION OF COMMUNICATION
- CHAPTER THIRTEEN: WHY THE REWARDED CYCLE IS FOR EVERY MARRIAGE- HOT, COLD, OR LUKEWARM
- CHAPTER FOURTEEN: THE JESUS WAY OF TALKING- PART I
- CHAPTER FIFTEEN: THE JESUS WAY OF TALKING- PART II
- CHAPTER SIXTEEN: THE JESUS WAY OF TALKING- PART III
- CONCLUSION: IN GOD ALWAYS TRUST
- ENDNOTES
- APPENDIX A: HOW TO GET OFF A CHRONIC CRAZY CYCLE CAUSED BY LOW-GRADE RESENTMENT
- APPENDIX B: FORGIVING-BUT ALSO CONFRONTING-THE THREE A'S: ADULTERY, ABUSE, ADDICTION
- APPENDIX C: HOW TO WRITE A LOVE NOTE OR MAKE A GOOD "I LOVE YOU" SPEECH TO YOUR WIFE
- APPENDIX D: USING FEEDBACK TO CLARIFY YOUR CONVERSATIONS
- APPENDIX E: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND RESPECT DO NOT OPERATE ON A SCALE OF 1-10
- APPENDIX F: MY PRAYER IN THIS TIME OF TRIAL
