Help! I'm Ruining My Kids
A Gospel Guide for the Mom Who's Desperate for Change
Published on 7. May 2026
Book
Paperback/Softback
240 pages
978-0-310-37025-3 (ISBN)
Description
Are you worried that, despite your best efforts, you're messing up your kids? Help! I'm Ruining My Kids is your invitation to trade defeat and fear for hope and joy as you follow the biblical road map to becoming the mom you're meant to be.
We all desperately want to be good mothers who produce good humans, but our flaws and habits get in the way. We're reactive when we want to be intentional. We check out when we need to be engaged. And at the end of a long day, our minds are often flooded with thoughts of self-condemnation.
Author and mother Abbey Wedgeworth has been there too. But she has an important message to share with fellow moms: Nothing is beyond redemption--not you, not your experience of motherhood, and not your kids' experience of your imperfections.
In Help! I'm Ruining My Kids, Abbey invites you to journey with her toward a place where God's grace frees you from a guilty conscience, his compassion ministers to your past and present hardships, and his Spirit transforms you to look more like Jesus. With refreshing transparency, practical wisdom, and biblical encouragement, Abbey helps you to:
Identify and accept your personal limits
Develop realistic expectations for motherhood
Discover how to fight against mom guilt and the shame that comes with it
Create a comprehensive action plan for change
Learn to parent well as a work in progress
The good news is we can change--with a few practical tools and a whole lot of God's grace.
We all desperately want to be good mothers who produce good humans, but our flaws and habits get in the way. We're reactive when we want to be intentional. We check out when we need to be engaged. And at the end of a long day, our minds are often flooded with thoughts of self-condemnation.
Author and mother Abbey Wedgeworth has been there too. But she has an important message to share with fellow moms: Nothing is beyond redemption--not you, not your experience of motherhood, and not your kids' experience of your imperfections.
In Help! I'm Ruining My Kids, Abbey invites you to journey with her toward a place where God's grace frees you from a guilty conscience, his compassion ministers to your past and present hardships, and his Spirit transforms you to look more like Jesus. With refreshing transparency, practical wisdom, and biblical encouragement, Abbey helps you to:
Identify and accept your personal limits
Develop realistic expectations for motherhood
Discover how to fight against mom guilt and the shame that comes with it
Create a comprehensive action plan for change
Learn to parent well as a work in progress
The good news is we can change--with a few practical tools and a whole lot of God's grace.
Reviews / Votes
Abbey's new book is a refreshing reminder that parenting isn't powered by our perfection but by God's presence, offering freedom, hope, and the assurance that he's at work in our kids' lives, even when we fall short. A wise and theologically grounded guide for weary, overwhelmed moms. Who doesn't need that? * Megan Michelson, director, Birds & Bees * Abbey's writing is the kind you don't just read--you feel it. Her words are raw and unpretentious, tender yet weighty. And they reach straight into the hidden places of a mother's heart. There's something deeply therapeutic about the way she speaks truth, always wrapped in the language of the gospel. Abbey's vulnerability, honesty, and steadiness shine through every page. This book doesn't shout. It simply tells the truth with courage and clarity, inviting moms to stop hiding and meet grace right where they are. Readers won't walk away the same; they'll walk away lighter, steadier, and more rooted in hope. * Rebekah Hannah, children's ministry director, Redeemer LSQ in NYC; CEO, Anchored Virtual; author, The Secret to Confidence * For anyone who's ever felt they aren't the mom they thought they would be, Abbey's words are a healing balm to the disappointed soul. She's given us a rare gift: a book filled with hope that also meets us in our humanity. * Kate Strickler, founder, Naptime Kitchen; author, I Just Wish I Had a Bigger Kitchen * For those of you who know Abbey and her heart for Jesus and motherhood, it will come as no surprise that in her newest book she offers moms the kind of genuine hope everyone is desperate to hear. She does this like a loving friend, full of sincerity and personal compassion. Her words are deeply practical and deeply theological as she points us to Jesus. This book is exactly what every mom needs to hear right now. * Adam Griffin, lead pastor, Eastside Community Church, Dallas, Texas; host, The Family Discipleship Podcast; author * I so wish I would have had this book when I was raising my young children. Abbey would have been a trusted friend and mentor to me, as I longed to be a gospel-rich mom to my daughters. My own kids are now grown, but I heartily commend this book to moms still hard at work shaping the hearts of their kids, even as God shapes theirs. This book is full of both grace and truth, real-life stories and biblical principles, ideas for application and an invitation to rest. It truly is a handbook and companion for every mom who wants to give and receive the gospel in her own heart and home. * Jen Oshman, author; speaker; women's ministry director * In Help! I'm Ruining My Kids, Abbey's writing is raw, honest, relatable, and deeply encouraging. Moms carrying hidden guilt and shame will feel seen and understood, and her unique blend of gospel principles, theology, and science-backed strategies offers both truth and practical tools. Moms in need of a breakthrough will come away with lightbulb moments, a plan to break reactive patterns, and hope for moving forward in both motherhood and personal holiness. * Emily A. Jensen, coauthor of Risen Motherhood and Gospel Mom * In a world overflowing with parenting tips, hacks, and how-tos, Help! I'm Ruining My Kids is an anthem of grace-filled dependence on God. Abbey's warm and authentic writing makes you feel like you are sitting at a coffee shop with another in-process mom, gleaning wisdom rooted in God's Word. If you're a mom discouraged because motherhood hasn't looked the way you hoped, this book will meet you right where you are and remind you that the gospel truly transforms not only how we parent but also how we live as beloved children of God. * Gretchen Saffles, bestselling author, The Well-Watered Woman * This gospel guide confronts 'mom guilt' head-on! Abbey takes raw moments of motherhood and pulls them through the sieve of the gospel and its application. Her writing is filled with truth and tact, and it thrusts moms into the arms of the God we can trust to transform us. You will be left filled with hope, not only in how you see your role as a mom but also in how you see your role as a daughter of God. * Blair Linne, author, Made to Tremble and Yara the Brave and The Swirling Worry *More details
Language
English
Place of publication
Grand Rapids
United States
Product notice
Unsewn / adhesive bound
Dimensions
Height: 210 mm
Width: 137 mm
Thickness: 19 mm
Weight
236 gr
ISBN-13
978-0-310-37025-3 (9780310370253)
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Persons
Abbey Wedgeworth is a Bible teacher, speaker, and writer. She is the author of Held: 31 Biblical Reflections on God's Comfort and Care in the Sorrow of Miscarriage (a Christian Book Award finalist), as well as Training Young Hearts, a nine-book children's series. She is known for her popular parenting reels on Instagram and enjoys serving and teaching in her local church as well as at conferences, retreats, and conventions. Abbey and her husband, David, live in the South Carolina lowcountry, where she homeschools their three young sons.