Seeing Through the Grief
A Time Perspective Therapy Approach
Published on 16. April 2024
Book
Paperback/Softback
191 pages
978-1-4766-9414-6 (ISBN)
Description
When we experience a great loss, our despair can be so intense that we get stuck, oftentimes facing backwards, reliving painful experiences that may leave us feeling stranded in the past. We can find ourselves living day-to-day on autopilot, going through the motions, while in the back of our minds we might think we don't deserve to be happy anymore. When we try to look at the future, whatever plans we had made prior to our loss now seem impossible to achieve.
If this sounds familiar, Time Perspective Therapy (TPT) is designed to help; it provides simple tools to turn your perspective from dark to light, from negative to positive. This book dives deep into the many facets of grief: from depression and caregiver stress to reestablishing relationships that may have fallen to the wayside and making plans for your new and different future. Through real-life intimate stories of those who have suffered loss and grown from the experience, and easy-to-do exercises, it is designed to help you learn how TPT can help you cherish the past, enjoy the present, move toward a new and brighter future, and live a fulfilling, meaningful life.
If this sounds familiar, Time Perspective Therapy (TPT) is designed to help; it provides simple tools to turn your perspective from dark to light, from negative to positive. This book dives deep into the many facets of grief: from depression and caregiver stress to reestablishing relationships that may have fallen to the wayside and making plans for your new and different future. Through real-life intimate stories of those who have suffered loss and grown from the experience, and easy-to-do exercises, it is designed to help you learn how TPT can help you cherish the past, enjoy the present, move toward a new and brighter future, and live a fulfilling, meaningful life.
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Language
English
Place of publication
Jefferson, NC
United States
Target group
Interest Age: From 18 years
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Illustrations
2 photos, appendices, glossary, bibliography, index
Dimensions
Height: 229 mm
Width: 152 mm
Thickness: 11 mm
Weight
284 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-4766-9414-6 (9781476694146)
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Persons
Rosemary K.M. Sword is codeveloper of Time Perspective Therapy and lead/coauthor of numerous TPT-related books and articles as well as a popular PsychologyToday.com blog. She lives in Kula, Hawaii. Stanford University professor emeritus Philip G. Zimbardo is known for his landmark prison study, dramatized in the IFC film The Stanford Prison Experiment. His nonprofit Heroic Imagination Project teaches how to meet challenges with wise and effective action. He lives in San Francisco.
Content
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
One.?Grief, Loss, and Time Perspective Therapy
The Difference Between Grief, Mourning, and Loss?8 delete* deleteThe Difference Between Loneliness and Being Alone?10 delete* deleteBut What Is Grief??10 delete* deleteWhat Is "Normal" or "Common" Grief??11 delete* deleteHow Long Will I Mourn??12 delete* deleteMany Kinds of Grief?12 delete* deleteIs Depression a Part of Grief??15 delete* deleteIs Anxiety a Part of Grief??17 delete* deleteIs Stress a Part of Grief??19 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 1?20 delete* deleteThe Elephant in the Room?22 delete* deleteThe Unkindest Things to Say to a Mourner?23 delete* deleteWhat If I Need Help??27 delete* deleteTake This Quiz?28 delete* deleteZimbardo Time Perspective Inventory (ZTPI) Short Form?29 delete* deleteFive Main Time Perspectives in Time Perspective Therapy?31 delete* deleteA Balanced Time Perspective Leads to Greater Stability?31 delete* deletePositive Effects?32 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?33
Two.?The Past
The Genesis of Dying and Grief Research?38 delete* deleteRick and Rose: How We Found Out Rick Was Dying?39 delete* delete--Kuebler-Ross's Five Stages of Grief?40 delete* deleteNew Research?42 delete* deleteBias Toward the Past?43 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 2?44 delete* deleteSimilarities Between Grief and Post-traumatic Stress?46 delete* deleteChanging Past Negatives into Past Positives?51 delete* deleteNoelle?52 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey from Past Negative to Past Positive?56 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?58 delete* deleteBuilding Your Treasure Chest of Past Positive Memories?58 delete* deleteTake a Breath?59 delete* deleteGood Memories?60 delete* deleteA Good Night's Sleep?61 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?66
Three.?The Present
Caregivers?72 delete* deleteCaregiver Stress?73 delete* deleteRick and Rose: Circle of Support?74 delete* deleteHelp for Caregiver Stress?76 delete* deleteHospice Care?78 delete* deleteRick and Rose: Everything Everywhere All at Once?79 delete* deleteThe Vultures in the Room?81 delete* deleteCrash Course in Narcissistic Personality Symptoms?82 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 3?83 delete* deleteParents, Children, Narcissists?85 delete* deleteThe Importance of Wills?87 delete* deleteRick and Rose: The End of Physicality?88 delete* deleteBias Toward the Present?90 delete* deleteTemporary Present Fatalism?91 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey from Present Fatalism to Present Hedonism?94 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?95 delete* deleteBe Kind to Yourself?96 delete* deleteBe Here Now?99 delete* deleteReconnect?100 delete* deleteFlip the Switch and Then Go Random?101 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?102
Four.?The Future
The Importance of Nature?108 delete* deleteMusic and Grief?110 delete* deleteRose: Facing the Future?112 delete* deleteWhen Life Feels Out of Control?115 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 4?117 delete* deleteMaking Things Right?121 delete* deleteHo'oponopono?122 delete* deleteBias Toward the Future?124 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey into Her Brighter Future?126 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?128 delete* deleteOur Brighter-and Different-Future?129 delete* deleteSetting Goals?131 delete* deleteLooking Forward?132 delete* deleteA Good Night's Sleep Revisited?134 delete* deleteLiving a Life of Happiness and Meaning?136 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?141
Epilogue
Glossary
Appendix I. ZTPI Questionnaire (Long Form)
Appendix II. Core Values
Appendix III. Character Strengths
Resources
Index
Acknowledgments
Introduction
One.?Grief, Loss, and Time Perspective Therapy
The Difference Between Grief, Mourning, and Loss?8 delete* deleteThe Difference Between Loneliness and Being Alone?10 delete* deleteBut What Is Grief??10 delete* deleteWhat Is "Normal" or "Common" Grief??11 delete* deleteHow Long Will I Mourn??12 delete* deleteMany Kinds of Grief?12 delete* deleteIs Depression a Part of Grief??15 delete* deleteIs Anxiety a Part of Grief??17 delete* deleteIs Stress a Part of Grief??19 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 1?20 delete* deleteThe Elephant in the Room?22 delete* deleteThe Unkindest Things to Say to a Mourner?23 delete* deleteWhat If I Need Help??27 delete* deleteTake This Quiz?28 delete* deleteZimbardo Time Perspective Inventory (ZTPI) Short Form?29 delete* deleteFive Main Time Perspectives in Time Perspective Therapy?31 delete* deleteA Balanced Time Perspective Leads to Greater Stability?31 delete* deletePositive Effects?32 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?33
Two.?The Past
The Genesis of Dying and Grief Research?38 delete* deleteRick and Rose: How We Found Out Rick Was Dying?39 delete* delete--Kuebler-Ross's Five Stages of Grief?40 delete* deleteNew Research?42 delete* deleteBias Toward the Past?43 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 2?44 delete* deleteSimilarities Between Grief and Post-traumatic Stress?46 delete* deleteChanging Past Negatives into Past Positives?51 delete* deleteNoelle?52 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey from Past Negative to Past Positive?56 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?58 delete* deleteBuilding Your Treasure Chest of Past Positive Memories?58 delete* deleteTake a Breath?59 delete* deleteGood Memories?60 delete* deleteA Good Night's Sleep?61 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?66
Three.?The Present
Caregivers?72 delete* deleteCaregiver Stress?73 delete* deleteRick and Rose: Circle of Support?74 delete* deleteHelp for Caregiver Stress?76 delete* deleteHospice Care?78 delete* deleteRick and Rose: Everything Everywhere All at Once?79 delete* deleteThe Vultures in the Room?81 delete* deleteCrash Course in Narcissistic Personality Symptoms?82 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 3?83 delete* deleteParents, Children, Narcissists?85 delete* deleteThe Importance of Wills?87 delete* deleteRick and Rose: The End of Physicality?88 delete* deleteBias Toward the Present?90 delete* deleteTemporary Present Fatalism?91 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey from Present Fatalism to Present Hedonism?94 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?95 delete* deleteBe Kind to Yourself?96 delete* deleteBe Here Now?99 delete* deleteReconnect?100 delete* deleteFlip the Switch and Then Go Random?101 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?102
Four.?The Future
The Importance of Nature?108 delete* deleteMusic and Grief?110 delete* deleteRose: Facing the Future?112 delete* deleteWhen Life Feels Out of Control?115 delete* deleteReligions and Spiritual Practices: How We Mourn-Part 4?117 delete* deleteMaking Things Right?121 delete* deleteHo'oponopono?122 delete* deleteBias Toward the Future?124 delete* deleteNoelle's Journey into Her Brighter Future?126 delete* deleteLet's Get Started?128 delete* deleteOur Brighter-and Different-Future?129 delete* deleteSetting Goals?131 delete* deleteLooking Forward?132 delete* deleteA Good Night's Sleep Revisited?134 delete* deleteLiving a Life of Happiness and Meaning?136 delete* deleteTo Sum Up?141
Epilogue
Glossary
Appendix I. ZTPI Questionnaire (Long Form)
Appendix II. Core Values
Appendix III. Character Strengths
Resources
Index