
The Dykonic Handbook
The ultimate guide to living your best queer life
Amy Spalding(Author)
Bloomsbury Publishing PLC
Will be published approx. on 18. June 2026
Book
Hardback
192 pages
978-1-0372-0201-8 (ISBN)
Description
"This how-to guide is deeply authentic, utterly necessary, and, above all, hilarious" - GAY TIMES MAGAZINE
"If you're queer, pick this up and read it immediately. If you're straight do the same" - CHARLEY MARLOWE
"The type of book I needed to see on shelves growing up. Amy's visibility is beautiful" - HARRIET ROSE
DYKONIC (dye-KON-ik)
adjective (informal/slang)
Portmanteau of the words 'dyke' and 'iconic', meaning exceptionally iconic within lesbian, sapphic or queer culture; embodying bold, confident or culturally resonant queer identity.
In The Dykonic Handbook, breakout star of BBC's I Kissed a Girl - and everyone's favourite lesbian big sister - Amy Spalding helps you live your best queer life, covering everything from the trials and tribulations of coming out and how to successfully traverse TikTok comments (beware: hey mamas lesbians ahead), to journeying through the history of queer dress, where you can explore how to build your very own lesbian capsule wardrobe.
With the help of some hilarious, anonymous, sexy-time stories, Amy will settle any nerves you may have before doing the deed, help you discover a plethora of new ways to find community, navigate the infamous lesbian web and a whole lot more.
Featuring stories from Amy's own gloriously messy journey, heartfelt advice from sapphic elders, and answers to the most burning FAQs from her followers, this book is for anyone at any stage of their queerness.
Whether you're newly questioning, proudly out, or somewhere in between, this is the ultimate guide to becoming absolutely DYKONIC, daaarling.
"If you're queer, pick this up and read it immediately. If you're straight do the same" - CHARLEY MARLOWE
"The type of book I needed to see on shelves growing up. Amy's visibility is beautiful" - HARRIET ROSE
DYKONIC (dye-KON-ik)
adjective (informal/slang)
Portmanteau of the words 'dyke' and 'iconic', meaning exceptionally iconic within lesbian, sapphic or queer culture; embodying bold, confident or culturally resonant queer identity.
In The Dykonic Handbook, breakout star of BBC's I Kissed a Girl - and everyone's favourite lesbian big sister - Amy Spalding helps you live your best queer life, covering everything from the trials and tribulations of coming out and how to successfully traverse TikTok comments (beware: hey mamas lesbians ahead), to journeying through the history of queer dress, where you can explore how to build your very own lesbian capsule wardrobe.
With the help of some hilarious, anonymous, sexy-time stories, Amy will settle any nerves you may have before doing the deed, help you discover a plethora of new ways to find community, navigate the infamous lesbian web and a whole lot more.
Featuring stories from Amy's own gloriously messy journey, heartfelt advice from sapphic elders, and answers to the most burning FAQs from her followers, this book is for anyone at any stage of their queerness.
Whether you're newly questioning, proudly out, or somewhere in between, this is the ultimate guide to becoming absolutely DYKONIC, daaarling.
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Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Dimensions
Height: 182 mm
Width: 108 mm
Thickness: 18 mm
Weight
180 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-0372-0201-8 (9781037202018)
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E-Book
approx. 06/2026
Bloomsbury Publishing PLC
€10.99
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Person
Amy Spalding is best known as the breakout star from BBC's ground-breaking queer reality show I Kissed a Girl which aired in May 2024 and has since been bought by Hulu to air in the US. Since the show she has grown a cult-like following and has been heralded by the likes of Dazed as one of the figureheads of the Lesbian Renaissance.
Amy has worked with the likes of Dazed Beauty, Jean Paul Gaultier, Vinted, NYX and Sephora and is the founder of SLT Studios, a jewellery brand best known for its iconic Dyke Rings. The brand has gained a cult following and has been spotted on celebrities such as Cara Delevingne, Renee Rapp, and Girl In Red. Amy is also starring in a Lena Dunham-produced short film called Notice Me, to come soon.
Amy has worked with the likes of Dazed Beauty, Jean Paul Gaultier, Vinted, NYX and Sephora and is the founder of SLT Studios, a jewellery brand best known for its iconic Dyke Rings. The brand has gained a cult following and has been spotted on celebrities such as Cara Delevingne, Renee Rapp, and Girl In Red. Amy is also starring in a Lena Dunham-produced short film called Notice Me, to come soon.