Good Boy, Bad Boy

When you look in the mirror, do you see a good person or a bad person?

Author Joel Primus grew up believing he needed to "do good" and "be good" to earn his parents' love and society's acceptance, but no matter what he accomplished, he never felt good enough. This underlying feeling of "badness," which he tried desperately to ignore, permeated much of his life.

Psychiatrist Carl Jung calls the unsavory aspect of our personality the "shadow self," and the more we distance ourselves from it, the more anxiety, shame, and unworthiness grows. From the media, society, religion, our parents, and other external voices, we learn to condemn the bad in others and push it away in ourselves. But what if good and bad aren't actually opposites?

That's what author Joel Primus explores in this book. Combining research and parables with his

own experiences as a long-distance runner, entrepreneur, traveler, and father, Primus asks us to challenge our perception of good and bad. When we embrace the idea that our shadow is not the antithesis of our light, but rather a vital piece of our whole, we free ourselves from self-imposed constraints and give our children permission to do the same. By healing ourselves he believes we can "heal the line" and redefine what it means to live a good life.