Letting Go of Perfect
A Gay Man's Guide to Healing from Body Dysmorphia
Published on 21. October 2025
Book
Paperback/Softback
272 pages
978-1-80501-798-1 (ISBN)
Description
Body dysmorphia affects a significant number of gay men, driven by rigid beauty ideals and social expectations around masculinity. The pursuit of a 'perfect' body can quickly become all-consuming, leading to harmful patterns around food, fitness, and self-worth.
Daniel O'Shaughnessy understands this not just as a clinician but as someone who has lived it. Drawing on his experience with extreme dieting, compulsive exercise, and steroid use, he brings a rare honesty to a subject still too often shrouded in silence. His professional insight as a nutritionist and mindset coach is shaped by this lived reality, offering both empathy and expertise.
This book explores why body dysmorphia is so pervasive in the gay community, unpacks its psychological roots, and provides practical tools to help you challenge toxic patterns and begin to build a more respectful, sustainable relationship with your body.
Whether you're caught in cycles of comparison or simply exhausted by the pressure to look a certain way, this is a grounded guide to thinking differently, living more freely, and letting go of the need to be 'perfect.'
Daniel O'Shaughnessy understands this not just as a clinician but as someone who has lived it. Drawing on his experience with extreme dieting, compulsive exercise, and steroid use, he brings a rare honesty to a subject still too often shrouded in silence. His professional insight as a nutritionist and mindset coach is shaped by this lived reality, offering both empathy and expertise.
This book explores why body dysmorphia is so pervasive in the gay community, unpacks its psychological roots, and provides practical tools to help you challenge toxic patterns and begin to build a more respectful, sustainable relationship with your body.
Whether you're caught in cycles of comparison or simply exhausted by the pressure to look a certain way, this is a grounded guide to thinking differently, living more freely, and letting go of the need to be 'perfect.'
Reviews / Votes
Body image is a real struggle in the gay community-and finally, there's a resource that tackles it with clarity, compassion, and authenticity. Packed with honest insight and practical tools, this is a must-read for gay men and the professionals who support us. -- Tom Bruett, MS, LMFT, licensed psychotherapist, author of 'the Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men' Honest, informative and brave, Letting Go Of Perfect is a refreshing read for any LGBTQIA+ person who's ever been left feeling inadequate by the gym. I needed this book fifteen years ago. Essential reading! -- Philip Baldwin, LGBTQIA+ ActivistMore details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Product notice
Paperback (UK-trade)
Illustrations
N/A
Dimensions
Height: 241 mm
Width: 109 mm
Thickness: 19 mm
Weight
272 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-80501-798-1 (9781805017981)
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E-Book
10/2025
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
€16.99
Available for download
Persons
Daniel O'Shaughnessy is an award-winning nutritionist and mindset coach based in London. As a Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner, he has worked for over a decade in clinical practice, drawing on earlier experience as an addiction therapist to support clients through a wide range of physical and mental health challenges. A pioneer in bridging LGBTQ+ experience with holistic health, his previous writing helped spark vital conversations around identity, wellbeing and care that truly reflects the lives of those it serves.