Who's To Blame?

What happens when you have a relationship where manipulation and disloyalty are the norm? A relationship where the usual suspect is not the suspect? Feelings get hurt, hearts get broken, and there are reactions to every action. When it's all said and done...Who's to Blame???This story is almost identical to why I am in prison as we speak, serving 37 years sentence. Thank God no one died in my situation. No man should ever put his hands on a woman, but it should also be advocated that no woman should ever put her hands on a man. I used to blame my abuser, who ultimately ended up being my victim. Then I educated myself on life and learned that she was just mimicking what she learned growing up in her household. So parents, be very aware of how you are behaving around your children, as well as what you are exposing them to. My heart sincerely goes out toany woman who is truly the victim of violence in general. But these manipulative women using this domestic violence movement to punish, control, or just being spiteful need to stop. If you are a man who abuses women simply because they are weaker, you are a lame. If you are a woman who continuously puts your hands on a man, if that man decides to hit you back, the truth of the matter is you are not a victim.Loyalty is everything, so I understand people who support their friends and family, right, wrong, weak, or strong. The same way I understand that, is the same way we all should understand that if your friends or family are out here victimizing others, as harsh as this may sound, but when their actions and behaviors become their fate, how can you really blame somebody other than your folks? Two wrongs never make a right, but when you wrong someone, you can't complain when they wrong you back. All actions have reactions or consequences. If anybody takes anything from this story, I hope it is to watch who you are choosing to date. Good sex or simply companionship is not worth the possible heartache and pain that could come with it. Never ignore warning signs. Most of the time, (Not Always) if you pay attention to the family of someone you are considering dating, you should keep in mind that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I have little family and a small friend group because I don't allow toxic, disloyalty, crab in a barrel syndrome, jealousy, or miserable people around me. If you're smart, you live and learn. I don't hold grudges; I learn lessons.