
How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don't)
A compassionate guide to rage, regulation and repair
Anna Mathur(Author)
Penguin Life (Publisher)
Will be published approx. on 2. July 2026
Book
Hardback
416 pages
978-0-241-70721-0 (ISBN)
Description
"Compassionate, insightful and incredibly practical. Anna Mathur transforms the way we understand anger" - Abby Rawlinson, author of Reclaiming You
Your rage isn't a character flaw. It's a message.
You didn't used to be like this, did you?
The sharp words, the slammed drawer, the guilt that follows. I've been there too - wondering how I became someone who snaps at the people I love the most.
What if I told you that your anger isn't bad and it isn't something you need to hide? For too long we've been taught to bottle it up, to keep smiling, to push it down. But anger is normal. Anger is necessary. And when you understand it, anger can become one of your greatest allies.
In this book, I'll help you to see rage differently, not as something shameful, but as a signal of what you need. We'll explore where it comes from, how to catch it sooner, to repair faster, and to use its energy to create change rather than damage.
Your anger doesn't make you broken, it makes you human. And when you learn to listen to it, rage can become one of your greatest sources of power, protection and connection.
"Essential reading for all recovering people-pleasers!" - Emma Reed Turrell, author of What Am I Missing?
"A compassionate and insightful book that brings understanding to a subject so often misunderstood and wrapped in shame" - Simon Gilham, author of Stop Lying to Yourself
Your rage isn't a character flaw. It's a message.
You didn't used to be like this, did you?
The sharp words, the slammed drawer, the guilt that follows. I've been there too - wondering how I became someone who snaps at the people I love the most.
What if I told you that your anger isn't bad and it isn't something you need to hide? For too long we've been taught to bottle it up, to keep smiling, to push it down. But anger is normal. Anger is necessary. And when you understand it, anger can become one of your greatest allies.
In this book, I'll help you to see rage differently, not as something shameful, but as a signal of what you need. We'll explore where it comes from, how to catch it sooner, to repair faster, and to use its energy to create change rather than damage.
Your anger doesn't make you broken, it makes you human. And when you learn to listen to it, rage can become one of your greatest sources of power, protection and connection.
"Essential reading for all recovering people-pleasers!" - Emma Reed Turrell, author of What Am I Missing?
"A compassionate and insightful book that brings understanding to a subject so often misunderstood and wrapped in shame" - Simon Gilham, author of Stop Lying to Yourself
Reviews / Votes
A compassionate and insightful book that brings understanding to a subject so often misunderstood and wrapped in shame. * Simon Gilham, author of Stop Lying to Yourself * Essential reading for all recovering people-pleasers! * Emma Reed Turrell, author of What Am I Missing? * Compassionate, insightful and incredibly practical. Anna Mathur transforms the way we understand anger. * Abby Rawlinson, author of Reclaiming You *More details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Penguin Books Ltd
Dimensions
Height: 222 mm
Width: 138 mm
Thickness: 40 mm
Weight
500 gr
ISBN-13
978-0-241-70721-0 (9780241707210)
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Anna Mathur
How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don't)
A compassionate guide to rage, regulation and repair
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approx. 07/2026
Penguin Books Ltd
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Person
Anna Mathur is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She's passionate about taking therapy beyond the consulting room, sharing honest, supportive insights drawn from her personal and professional experience. She offers encouragement through her books, Instagram (@annamathur), online courses, in-person events and her podcast, The Therapy Edit, which had over four million downloads. Anna also works with corporate organisations to support mental wellbeing and regularly share her thoughts in national media, including TV, radio and press.