Are We Done Fighting?

Name: Are We Done Fighting? | Building Understanding in a World of Hate and Division
Brand: New Society Publishers
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Building Understanding in a World of Hate and Division

Matthew Legge(Author)

New Society Publishers

Published on 28. May 2019

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354 pages

978-0-86571-908-8 (ISBN)

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Powerful tools for spreading peace in your community

Unfounded beliefs and hateful political and social divisions that can cascade into violence are threatening to pull the world apart. Responding to fear and aggression strategically and with compassion is vital if we are to push back against the politics of hate and live in greater safety and harmony.

But how to do it?

Are We Done Fighting? is brimming with the latest research, practical activities, and inspirational stories of success for cultivating inner change and spreading peace at the community level and beyond. Coverage includes:

An explanation of the different styles of conflict
Cognitive biases that help explain polarized and lose-lose positions
Practical methods and activities for changing our own and others' minds
When punishment works and doesn't, and how to encourage discipline in children without using violence
The skill of self-compassion and ways to reduce prejudice in ourselves and others
Incredible programs that are rebuilding trust between people after genocide.

Packed with inspiration and cutting-edge findings from fields including neuroscience, social psychology, and behavioural economics, Are We Done Fighting? is an essential toolkit for activists, community and peace groups, and students and instructors working to build dialogue, understanding, and peace as the antidote to the politics of hate and division.

AWARDS

SILVER | 2019 Nautilus Book Awards: Social Change & Social Justice

Reviews / Votes

"A fresh, studious and very readable book on how to live peace in today's chaotic world. Matthew Legge's helpful hints for individual or group action are in the best Quaker tradition."
- Hon. Douglas Roche, O.C., former Senator and former Canadian Ambassador for Disarmament

"No, we are not done fighting, but we can fight in a better way. This book tells you how."
- Johan Galtung, founder of the academic discipline of Peace Studies, and founder, Transcend International

"I recommend this extremely inspirational, accessible study book with its extensive practical exercises. I love the way it accepts that peace is possible, so in an interdependent world, it is everyone's responsibility to create positive change that fosters sustainable peace."
- Professor Elisabeth Porter, University of South Australia

"This book is a joy....[it] offers new material (stories and science) to those who have been doing this work for years, and a great way into peace for those just getting started. I especially appreciate the group discussions and exercises. No one should do peacework alone."
- Stephanie Van Hook, Executive Director, Metta Center for Nonviolence

"...an invaluable contribution to the ongoing quest to ensure peacemaking rather than violence is utilised to resolve conflicts, be they between individuals, groups or nations."
- Andrew Feinstein, author The Shadow World: Inside the Global Arms Trade

"This transformative book presents a refreshing and innovative exploration of how to visualize and actualize peace in global society, in our families and relationships, and in our own minds."
- Douglas P. Fry, author, Beyond War, and co-author, Nurturing Our Humanity

"... a much-needed antidote to the risk of depression and despair. In page after page, and with a multitude of sources to back up the arguments, Matthew Legge gives us plenty of hope stemming from experience."
- Paul Rogers, Emeritus Professor, Peace Studies, Bradford University, UK

"This is the book many peace, justice, and reconciliation advocates have waited for. Enabling, practical, and clear-minded, Matthew Legge offers readers-individuals or groups-a road map to transform our deepest conflicts."
- Paul R. Dekar, Emeritus Professor and co-founder, Peace Studies program, McMaster University, Canada

"... exceptionally valuable and timely...Matthew Legge offers practical solutions that make a difference in our own lives and in the broader communities that surround us.... Not only to be read, but put into action."
- Alex Neve, O.C., human rights lawyer and Secretary General, Amnesty International Canada

"For those who are working to decrease the madness of violence and increase the sanity of peace, lock arms today with Matthew Legge. Tomorrow is too late."
- Colman McCarthy, Director, The Center for Teaching Peace, Washington D.C.

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Foreword by George Lakey
About Quakers and the Author
Introduction
Using This Book
Activity: Learning Contract or Journaling
Activity: Your Values and a Special Person
Activity: Your Strengths

Section 1: Peace and Power
1. What Peace is Not
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Group Ideas - What Peace is Not
Example: Experience Changes Beliefs in Kenya

2. Us and Others
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Transforming Bias

3. Power-over
Tips from This Chapter

4. Power-with and Power-from- within
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Walk Around
Activity: Find Your Power-from- within

5. Process and Change
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Meeting an Unsympathetic Politician

Section 2: Communication Skills
6. Firm Belief
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Decision Making
Activity: Our Position

7. Treating Emotions with Care
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Making Connections

8. Communication
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Rewording a Conflict
Activity: Concentric Circles
Questions for This First Concentric Circles Activity

9. Conflict
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: What Would You Need?
Example: Who Gets Recognized?

Section 3: Violence and Interpersonal Peace
10. Seeing Violence
Tips from This Chapter

11. What's Natural?
Tips from This Chapter

12. Safety
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Accepting Everyone
Example: The Nashville Sit-ins

13. When Hate Rises
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Violence
Example: Sammy Rangel

14. Violence in Social Change
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Elections in Idlib City
Activity: Four Elements
Activity: Follow the Leader

15. Who Benefits?
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Mainstream and Margins

16. Oppressors and Victims
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Pronouns
Activity: What's Changed So Far?

Section 4: Inner Peace
17. Connection
Tips from This Chapter

18. Changing Ourselves
Tips from This Chapter
Activity: Kindness Meditation
Activity: Gratitude

Section 5: Structural Peace
19. Who's Dreaming?
Tips from This Chapter

20. Just War, Just Peace, and Responsibility
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Healing and Rebuilding our Communities

21. Unarmed Civilian Protection
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Bear Clan Patrol
Activity: De-escalation on the Subway

22. Mediation
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Concerned Citizens for Peace

23. Peace Education
Tips from This Chapter
Example: Power-with the Smallest Children?
Activity: Peacebuilding Dreams
Activity: What is Peace?

24. What Peace Is
Tips from This Chapter

Appendix 1: What We Mean by a Culture of Peacebuilding
Appendix 2: The Basics of Facilitation
Notes
Index
About New Society Publishers

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