Bloom
50 Things to Say, Think, and Do with Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids
Will be published approx. on 9. July 2015
Book
Paperback/Softback
238 pages
978-1-936268-82-5 (ISBN)
Description
Written for real parents with anxious, angry and over-the-top kids, Bloom is a brain-based approach to parenting all children. Stop second-guessing the way you handle misbehaviors and learn why they occur in the first place. Come to understand the developmental origins of behaviors and take a fresh look at how you can address them with skill-building techniques that produce real and lasting change.
Taking its lead from neuroscience and best practices in early childhood mental health, Bloom offers parents, teachers and care providers the words, thoughts and actions to raise calm, confident children, while reducing the need for consequences and punishment.
The first book of its kind, Bloom provides pages full of printable mantras you can carry with you, hang on your fridge or use in your classroom to raise emotionally competent kids. Bloom allows you to take a collaborative stance with children, improving their cognitive, emotional and social skills. Bloom offers a new approach to human relationships that will change the way you perceive, think and feel about parenting, love, work and life.If it works wonders with anxious, angry and over-the-top kids, imagine what it can do for your child.
Taking its lead from neuroscience and best practices in early childhood mental health, Bloom offers parents, teachers and care providers the words, thoughts and actions to raise calm, confident children, while reducing the need for consequences and punishment.
The first book of its kind, Bloom provides pages full of printable mantras you can carry with you, hang on your fridge or use in your classroom to raise emotionally competent kids. Bloom allows you to take a collaborative stance with children, improving their cognitive, emotional and social skills. Bloom offers a new approach to human relationships that will change the way you perceive, think and feel about parenting, love, work and life.If it works wonders with anxious, angry and over-the-top kids, imagine what it can do for your child.
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Language
English
Place of publication
Scottsdale
United States
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Illustrations
Illustrations
Dimensions
Height: 216 mm
Width: 139 mm
Thickness: 17 mm
Weight
299 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-936268-82-5 (9781936268825)
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Lynne Kenney, Psy.D., is a mother of two, a practicing pediatric psychologist and the author of The Family Coach Method. She has advanced fellowship training in forensic psychology and developmental pediatric psychology from Massachusetts General Hospital/Harvard Medical School and Harbor-UCLA/UCLA Medical School. Her content has appeared in Parenting, Parents, Real Simple, People Magazine and more. Dr. Lynne’s current interest is enhancing children’s math skills (ages 6-12) using movement with Play Math and Move2Think. She is currently a featured expert in Parents magazine and Working Mother magazine. Since 2006, she has co-produced three television shows and six DVDs with Baby First TV, and hosted the Baby First TV show “Baby Basics.” Dr. Kenney lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband and two children.
Dr. Kenney is a recognized “mom social media expert,” a featured contributor on Twittermoms.com and the host of The Family Coach Solution Studio on BlogTalk Radio. Her Better Living Content has appeared on ABC, the Montel Williams Show, and various child/family websites (including Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes and Gardens ). Dr. Kenney is a sought-after speaker nationally, and a respected consultant to The International Nanny Association and The National Head Start Association, for whom she was National Ambassador, 2007.
Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD, is the mom of three, an award-winning child and family therapist and an Early Childhood Mental Health Consultant. She graduated Summa Cum Laude from Michigan State University's School of Social Work and is the Clinical Director of Comprehensive Counseling & Consulting, LLC. Her writing has appeared in magazines such as Parenting, Family Fun and Woman’s World. Her work has also been featured in several books. She resides in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula and is recognized world-wide as a thought leader in early childhood and adolescent mental health.
Dr. Kenney is a recognized “mom social media expert,” a featured contributor on Twittermoms.com and the host of The Family Coach Solution Studio on BlogTalk Radio. Her Better Living Content has appeared on ABC, the Montel Williams Show, and various child/family websites (including Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes and Gardens ). Dr. Kenney is a sought-after speaker nationally, and a respected consultant to The International Nanny Association and The National Head Start Association, for whom she was National Ambassador, 2007.
Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD, is the mom of three, an award-winning child and family therapist and an Early Childhood Mental Health Consultant. She graduated Summa Cum Laude from Michigan State University's School of Social Work and is the Clinical Director of Comprehensive Counseling & Consulting, LLC. Her writing has appeared in magazines such as Parenting, Family Fun and Woman’s World. Her work has also been featured in several books. She resides in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula and is recognized world-wide as a thought leader in early childhood and adolescent mental health.
Content
Will Teaching My Child To Be More Skillful Really Work?
Keeping it Real with Bloom
Are You Ready to Become a Behavioral Detective?
Help Your Children Think About How They Feel
Bloom is a Way of Life
With Bloom, You and Your Child are on the Same Team
So, You Ask, "Where do the Blooms come in?
What You Will Find In This Book
How to Use This Book
Intense Children Are Like Flowers in Your Garden
Not All Flowers Are Created Equal
Water Flowers, Not Weeds
The Stinky Stuff Matters, Too
Down and Dirty
Don't be "Bamboozled" by Your Child's Behavior
Chapter 1: AM Mayhem
What Can We Do to Help?
Develop Routines
C-O-L-L-A-B-O-R-A-T-I-O-N is Key!
Here are 5 Simple Ways to Make Mornings Less Stressful
In A Nutshell: What Makes Mornings so Stressful?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
A Few Final Words
Chapter 2: Room Rehab ~ How can I help my son clean his room without getting so angry?
What Does It Look Like?
How You Will Get "From Here to There"
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In Closing
Chapter 3: A Bit on Biting
What Makes Kids Bite?
In a Nutshell: Why kids bite
How do I "Talk It Out" with my Child?
"I Gotta Do Something Quick!"
We Teach Our Children into More Prosocial-Behavior
How Can I Teach Our Children About Physical Space?
How do I Calmly Set a Limit?
What Would Modeling Look Like?
"I got bit!"
Act it out to fix it up
Notice what IS working
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Name it, Claim it, Tame it
Helping Kids Deal with Feelings is Easy as 1, 2, 3
Name It, Claim it , Tame It
Chapter 4: Aggression Alley
Feeling Territorial?
When Are the Kids Allowed to Play Next to Each Other?
Let's Dig Deeper
In A Nutshell: What Makes Children Hit?
How Can I Read My Child's Subtle Cues?
Can You Please Lend Me Your Brain?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In Closing...
Chapter 5: Daunting Disrespect
What Is The Sassing All About?
What Can I Do to Minimize the Sass?
Can Our Family Situation Be Part Of the Problem?
What is the Sassing Really Saying?
Is My Child Just Being Manipulative?
Why Sassing is Such a Challenge
How Long Will This Take? I Need My Child to Stop Sassing Now!
Do You Hear What I Hear?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In A Nutshell: What Makes Children Sassy?
In Closing...
Chapter 6: Tell, Don't Yell
How Did It Come To This?
What's Behind These Explosions?
What's The Brain Got to Do with It?
I've Seen Other Kids Get Upset, But My Child Seems to Do It All the Time. Is This Normal?
Sometimes Anger Is Hurt Feelings
The Little Hurts between Johnny and Mommy
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Getting On the Same Page
I Parent So Differently From My Significant Other
Now What?
Should We Keep Playing Good Cop/Bad Cop?
Is Getting on the Same Page Possible When
We Can't Agree on a Parenting Style?
Up to Code?
Anger Management Strategies
How It Works
Story-Telling for Mood Management
The Family Tantrum
Our Whole Family Seems Out of Control
How Do We Get It Back?
In a Nutshell: What Make Us Spill-Over?
More Resources
Chapter 7: Perpetual Motion
What Makes Kids Move So Much?
Some Beautiful Children Simply Need Movement to Think
In a Nutshell: What Makes Kids Move?
Reasons Kids Need to Move
How Can I Help?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Previewing Helps
Get Your "Move On"
Music and Rhythm for Calming and Brain Development
Food Matters
Are Your Child's Neurotransmitters Online?
Even More Resources
More on How to Actually Be a Behavioral Detective
How to Be a Behavioral Detective in 4 Easy Steps
Chapter 8: Schoolhouse Blues
Why Don't Kids Just Behave at School?
We Teach Respect and Kindness at Home. Why Can't My Child Display These Behaviors at School?
What Can Parents and Teachers Do About This?
What is Misbehavior a Sign of?
Who Can We See?
How Can They Help?
What is an Intervention?
Sample Referral Questions
What Do We Do With the Data?
What are Executive Functions?
What Does This Have to Do With Misbehavior?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
More Valuable Resources
Chapter 9: Tearful Goodbyes
What's The Deal behind Separation Anxiety?
Is Separation Anxiety Normal? Who Gets It?
What's going on behind the Tears and the Tantrums?
What's the Deal with Anxiety and Can Kids Really Have It?
How Long Will This Last?
What Can Help?
My Husband Thinks Our Child is trying to Manipulate Us. Could This Be What's Really Going On?
What Can The Preschool Teacher Do to Help?
This Separation Is Really Hard for me, too. Could My Child Be Aware of That? Might That Feed Her Anxiety?
A Crafty Way to Deal with Separation Anxiety
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In A Nutshell: Why Is Separating so Difficult for Some Children?
When It's Hard For You To Leave
She Just Won't Stop Crying. Now What?
A few closing word
Chapter 10: Trauma: When Pain Drives Behavior
Help Me Understand These Behaviors
What Are Some Specific Causes of Trauma?
Brave Warriors
Can I Help My Child Through This Alone?
An Emergency for the Body, Mind, and Emotions
How Long Will the Trauma Last?
Why Do Traumatized Kids Do What They Do?
Shouldn't All Misbehavior Be Treated the Same Way?
Trauma Requires Something Different
All Adults Have the Capacity to Help Children with Trauma
Can a Brain That's Been Traumatized Heal?
Three Steps to Managing Trauma-Driven Behavior
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Teach Mindfulness
Limbic Limbo: Strategies that Can Help
More Helping Techniques
Balloon Breathing
Bubble Breathing
When/How to Teach These Skills
Keep Reviewing!
Artful Interventions
The Power of "NO"
A Word of Caution
Resources
Chapter 11: Children and Grief: An Early Mourning
How Are Children of Different Ages Affected by Grief?
Grieving Through the Years
How Do I Explain Death to My Children?
Back to the Beginning
The Importance of Play
Validate, Validate, Validate
Get More Help When Needed
Should a Parent Hide Their Grief?
Children Need a Model for Grief
Striking a Balance
Grief Waves
Behavioral Issues of Grieving Children
How to Help a Grieving Child
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Crazy Mixed Up Feelings Activity
The Most Important Thing to Remember
So Long, For Now
More Resources for You
Keeping it Real with Bloom
Are You Ready to Become a Behavioral Detective?
Help Your Children Think About How They Feel
Bloom is a Way of Life
With Bloom, You and Your Child are on the Same Team
So, You Ask, "Where do the Blooms come in?
What You Will Find In This Book
How to Use This Book
Intense Children Are Like Flowers in Your Garden
Not All Flowers Are Created Equal
Water Flowers, Not Weeds
The Stinky Stuff Matters, Too
Down and Dirty
Don't be "Bamboozled" by Your Child's Behavior
Chapter 1: AM Mayhem
What Can We Do to Help?
Develop Routines
C-O-L-L-A-B-O-R-A-T-I-O-N is Key!
Here are 5 Simple Ways to Make Mornings Less Stressful
In A Nutshell: What Makes Mornings so Stressful?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
A Few Final Words
Chapter 2: Room Rehab ~ How can I help my son clean his room without getting so angry?
What Does It Look Like?
How You Will Get "From Here to There"
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In Closing
Chapter 3: A Bit on Biting
What Makes Kids Bite?
In a Nutshell: Why kids bite
How do I "Talk It Out" with my Child?
"I Gotta Do Something Quick!"
We Teach Our Children into More Prosocial-Behavior
How Can I Teach Our Children About Physical Space?
How do I Calmly Set a Limit?
What Would Modeling Look Like?
"I got bit!"
Act it out to fix it up
Notice what IS working
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Name it, Claim it, Tame it
Helping Kids Deal with Feelings is Easy as 1, 2, 3
Name It, Claim it , Tame It
Chapter 4: Aggression Alley
Feeling Territorial?
When Are the Kids Allowed to Play Next to Each Other?
Let's Dig Deeper
In A Nutshell: What Makes Children Hit?
How Can I Read My Child's Subtle Cues?
Can You Please Lend Me Your Brain?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In Closing...
Chapter 5: Daunting Disrespect
What Is The Sassing All About?
What Can I Do to Minimize the Sass?
Can Our Family Situation Be Part Of the Problem?
What is the Sassing Really Saying?
Is My Child Just Being Manipulative?
Why Sassing is Such a Challenge
How Long Will This Take? I Need My Child to Stop Sassing Now!
Do You Hear What I Hear?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In A Nutshell: What Makes Children Sassy?
In Closing...
Chapter 6: Tell, Don't Yell
How Did It Come To This?
What's Behind These Explosions?
What's The Brain Got to Do with It?
I've Seen Other Kids Get Upset, But My Child Seems to Do It All the Time. Is This Normal?
Sometimes Anger Is Hurt Feelings
The Little Hurts between Johnny and Mommy
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Getting On the Same Page
I Parent So Differently From My Significant Other
Now What?
Should We Keep Playing Good Cop/Bad Cop?
Is Getting on the Same Page Possible When
We Can't Agree on a Parenting Style?
Up to Code?
Anger Management Strategies
How It Works
Story-Telling for Mood Management
The Family Tantrum
Our Whole Family Seems Out of Control
How Do We Get It Back?
In a Nutshell: What Make Us Spill-Over?
More Resources
Chapter 7: Perpetual Motion
What Makes Kids Move So Much?
Some Beautiful Children Simply Need Movement to Think
In a Nutshell: What Makes Kids Move?
Reasons Kids Need to Move
How Can I Help?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Previewing Helps
Get Your "Move On"
Music and Rhythm for Calming and Brain Development
Food Matters
Are Your Child's Neurotransmitters Online?
Even More Resources
More on How to Actually Be a Behavioral Detective
How to Be a Behavioral Detective in 4 Easy Steps
Chapter 8: Schoolhouse Blues
Why Don't Kids Just Behave at School?
We Teach Respect and Kindness at Home. Why Can't My Child Display These Behaviors at School?
What Can Parents and Teachers Do About This?
What is Misbehavior a Sign of?
Who Can We See?
How Can They Help?
What is an Intervention?
Sample Referral Questions
What Do We Do With the Data?
What are Executive Functions?
What Does This Have to Do With Misbehavior?
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
More Valuable Resources
Chapter 9: Tearful Goodbyes
What's The Deal behind Separation Anxiety?
Is Separation Anxiety Normal? Who Gets It?
What's going on behind the Tears and the Tantrums?
What's the Deal with Anxiety and Can Kids Really Have It?
How Long Will This Last?
What Can Help?
My Husband Thinks Our Child is trying to Manipulate Us. Could This Be What's Really Going On?
What Can The Preschool Teacher Do to Help?
This Separation Is Really Hard for me, too. Could My Child Be Aware of That? Might That Feed Her Anxiety?
A Crafty Way to Deal with Separation Anxiety
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
In A Nutshell: Why Is Separating so Difficult for Some Children?
When It's Hard For You To Leave
She Just Won't Stop Crying. Now What?
A few closing word
Chapter 10: Trauma: When Pain Drives Behavior
Help Me Understand These Behaviors
What Are Some Specific Causes of Trauma?
Brave Warriors
Can I Help My Child Through This Alone?
An Emergency for the Body, Mind, and Emotions
How Long Will the Trauma Last?
Why Do Traumatized Kids Do What They Do?
Shouldn't All Misbehavior Be Treated the Same Way?
Trauma Requires Something Different
All Adults Have the Capacity to Help Children with Trauma
Can a Brain That's Been Traumatized Heal?
Three Steps to Managing Trauma-Driven Behavior
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Teach Mindfulness
Limbic Limbo: Strategies that Can Help
More Helping Techniques
Balloon Breathing
Bubble Breathing
When/How to Teach These Skills
Keep Reviewing!
Artful Interventions
The Power of "NO"
A Word of Caution
Resources
Chapter 11: Children and Grief: An Early Mourning
How Are Children of Different Ages Affected by Grief?
Grieving Through the Years
How Do I Explain Death to My Children?
Back to the Beginning
The Importance of Play
Validate, Validate, Validate
Get More Help When Needed
Should a Parent Hide Their Grief?
Children Need a Model for Grief
Striking a Balance
Grief Waves
Behavioral Issues of Grieving Children
How to Help a Grieving Child
What You Can Think
What You Can Say
What You Can Do
Crazy Mixed Up Feelings Activity
The Most Important Thing to Remember
So Long, For Now
More Resources for You