Balls in a Sandwich
Published on 28. September 2017
Book
Paperback/Softback
288 pages
978-1-78803-364-0 (ISBN)
Description
Over 850,000 people suffer from dementia in the UK today. A brutally honest story of love, pain and loss.
"I want your balls in a sandwich" were the last intelligible words that Peter Kaye's wife Bet said to him. Sadly they were delivered with, seemingly, the same degree of venom and hatred that had come to epitomise their last two years together, and sum up the vindictiveness that is so often a result of dementia. This book is about those two years, but is also the fifty year love story that preceded those final years of losing the person you love most. The author explains what it is like being a carer, and of what happens to someone after that role, which has dominated your life for so long, has come to an end.
Peter Kaye's autobiography of caring for his wife is a story full of the pain that comes with this horrific disease, but it is also a story of love, and humour and the positives in life that he has found from this time.
"I want your balls in a sandwich" were the last intelligible words that Peter Kaye's wife Bet said to him. Sadly they were delivered with, seemingly, the same degree of venom and hatred that had come to epitomise their last two years together, and sum up the vindictiveness that is so often a result of dementia. This book is about those two years, but is also the fifty year love story that preceded those final years of losing the person you love most. The author explains what it is like being a carer, and of what happens to someone after that role, which has dominated your life for so long, has come to an end.
Peter Kaye's autobiography of caring for his wife is a story full of the pain that comes with this horrific disease, but it is also a story of love, and humour and the positives in life that he has found from this time.
More details
Language
English
Place of publication
Market Harborough
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Troubador Publishing
Dimensions
Height: 198 mm
Width: 129 mm
ISBN-13
978-1-78803-364-0 (9781788033640)
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Schweitzer Classification
Person
Peter Kaye is a retired teacher, a cancer survivor, and when his wife Bet was diagnosed with Frontotemporal Dementia became a full time carer. This book is based on the notes he kept during those years. He also delves deeply into Bet's personal diaries. This provides an illuminating and disturbing insight into her ever-changing 'reality' as dementia stole her mind. Peter and Bet lived in Falmouth during the time of this story. Peter's wife Bet died in November 2015.