Raising Raffi

A hilarious, loving account of fatherhood and the surprising, magical, and maddening first six years of a son's life

"I was not prepared to be a father-this much I knew."



Keith Gessen was nearing forty and hadn't given much thought to the idea of being a father. He assumed he would have kids, but couldn't imagine what it would be like to be a parent, or what kind of parent he would be. Then, one Tuesday night in early June, the distant idea of fatherhood came careening into view: Raffi was born, a child as real and complex and demanding of his parents' energy as he was singularly magical.



Fatherhood is another country: a place where the old concerns are swept away, where the ordering of time is reconstituted, where days unfold according to a child's needs. Overnight, Keith's perception of his neighborhood changed: suddenly there were flocks of other parents and babies, playgrounds, and schools that spanned entire blocks. Raffi was enchanting, as well as terrifying, and like all parents, Keith wanted to do what was best for his child, even if he had no idea what that was.



Written over the first six years of Raffi's life, Raising Raffi examines the profound, overwhelming, often maddening experience of being a dad. Gessen traces how the practical decisions one must make each day intersect with some of the most weighty concerns of our age: What does it mean to choose a school in a segregated city? How do you instill in your child a sense of his heritage without passing on that history's darker sides? What does it mean, specifically, to raise a son who is white against the political backdrop of the last years? And what do you do, in a pandemic, when the whole world seems to fall apart? By turns hilarious and poignant, Raising Raffi is a story of what it means to invent the world anew as a father.

Story Locale: Brooklyn, NY