Holding Tight-Letting Go
Raising Healthy Kids in AnxiousTimes
Will be published approx. on 19. May 2016
Book
Paperback/Softback
198 pages
978-1-936268-90-0 (ISBN)
Description
An insightful, honest guide for parents and professionals regarding children on roles, boundaries, child growth and staying connected through life.
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Language
English
Place of publication
Scottsdale
United States
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Illustrations
Illustrations
Dimensions
Height: 226 mm
Width: 152 mm
Thickness: 13 mm
Weight
272 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-936268-90-0 (9781936268900)
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Ben Garber is a husband, son and the father of two. He is a New Hampshire licensed psychologist, a former Guardian ad litem and a Parenting Coordinator. He is an invited speaker and professional trainer across the United States and Canada, a prolific writer and a closet cartoonist.
Dr. Garber has advanced degrees in child and family development, clinical psychology, and psycholinguistics from the Pennsylvania State University and the University of Michigan. He has lived and worked in New Hampshire since 1988, opening his present practice in clinical child, family, forensic and consulting psychology in 1999.
When not engaged in professional activities or involved with family matters, Dr. Garber can often be found kayaking and fishing on the remote lakes and rivers of Northern New England and occasionally scuba diving in warmer waters to the south.
Dr. Garber is a nationally renowned speaker, researcher and an award winning freelance journalist, writing in the areas of child and family development for popular press publications appearing around the world and in juried professional publications in both law and psychology.
Dr. Garber has advanced degrees in child and family development, clinical psychology, and psycholinguistics from the Pennsylvania State University and the University of Michigan. He has lived and worked in New Hampshire since 1988, opening his present practice in clinical child, family, forensic and consulting psychology in 1999.
When not engaged in professional activities or involved with family matters, Dr. Garber can often be found kayaking and fishing on the remote lakes and rivers of Northern New England and occasionally scuba diving in warmer waters to the south.
Dr. Garber is a nationally renowned speaker, researcher and an award winning freelance journalist, writing in the areas of child and family development for popular press publications appearing around the world and in juried professional publications in both law and psychology.
Content
Introduction On the Survival of the Species; Inter-generational Dominoes
Chapter 2 Where Do You Get Your Emotional Fuel? People are like Cars: What's Your MPG? Are You Ready to Become Another Person's Gas Station?
Chapter 3 The Oceanic Self The Newborn Experiences Everything as Self; The "Drip" Metaphor
Chapter 4 Me v. Not Me Childhood as Emergence; The Anchor Metaphor; Tantrums, Practice and Faux Separations
Chapter 5 Healthy Anger Anger is Part of a Loving Relationship, Not the End of Love; How Do You Express Your Anger?
Chapter 6 "NOT ME!" Adolescence and Rejection; Rageful Separations; Launching and Re-entry; Tough-Love
Chapter 7 Accessorizing Self Boyfriends and Girlfriends, Peer Groups, Gang Colors, Team Members, Religion and Identity
Chapter 8 Fractured Self Trauma Can Create Fault Lines That Lay Dormant, Like a Mine, Until Your Partner or Your Child Steps on It
Chapter 9 Becoming a Parent Redefining Self for Mothers ... and Fathers? Three's Company?
Chapter 10 Letting Go From the Moment of Birth On; Two Steps Forward, One Step Back; "But Billy's Parents Let Him!"
Chapter 11 Holding Tight The Healthy Parent, Limits, Boundaries and Follow-Through
Chapter 12 Transitional Objects Helping Our Kids Internalize the Security We Provide
Chapter 13 Technology and Holding Tight Baby Monitors, GPS Trackers and Text Messaging as Umbilical Cords
Chapter 14 Divorce Divorce With or Without Marriage Letting Go of an Intimate Partner Can Be like Losing a Limb; How Do You Compensate?
Chapter 15 When Needy Parents Hold Too Tight: Adultified, Parentified and Infantitized Children Sometimes the Dominoes Fall Backwards: Fractured Parents Seek Their Children's Love
Chapter 16 When Needy Parents Can't Share: Parental Alienation Selfishly Undermining the Child's Opportunity to Love Her Other Parent
Chapter 17 Repairing Self "In Case of a Sudden Loss of Cabin Pressure..."; Psychotherapy, Meds, Exercise, Spirituality
Chapter 18 Adult Children as Our Caregivers? The Harsh Realities of Aging
Chapter 19 Death and Loss and Grieving Letting Go for Good
Chapter 20 Letting Go and Holding Tight Giving Our Children Permission to Become Healthy Parents Themselves
Chapter 2 Where Do You Get Your Emotional Fuel? People are like Cars: What's Your MPG? Are You Ready to Become Another Person's Gas Station?
Chapter 3 The Oceanic Self The Newborn Experiences Everything as Self; The "Drip" Metaphor
Chapter 4 Me v. Not Me Childhood as Emergence; The Anchor Metaphor; Tantrums, Practice and Faux Separations
Chapter 5 Healthy Anger Anger is Part of a Loving Relationship, Not the End of Love; How Do You Express Your Anger?
Chapter 6 "NOT ME!" Adolescence and Rejection; Rageful Separations; Launching and Re-entry; Tough-Love
Chapter 7 Accessorizing Self Boyfriends and Girlfriends, Peer Groups, Gang Colors, Team Members, Religion and Identity
Chapter 8 Fractured Self Trauma Can Create Fault Lines That Lay Dormant, Like a Mine, Until Your Partner or Your Child Steps on It
Chapter 9 Becoming a Parent Redefining Self for Mothers ... and Fathers? Three's Company?
Chapter 10 Letting Go From the Moment of Birth On; Two Steps Forward, One Step Back; "But Billy's Parents Let Him!"
Chapter 11 Holding Tight The Healthy Parent, Limits, Boundaries and Follow-Through
Chapter 12 Transitional Objects Helping Our Kids Internalize the Security We Provide
Chapter 13 Technology and Holding Tight Baby Monitors, GPS Trackers and Text Messaging as Umbilical Cords
Chapter 14 Divorce Divorce With or Without Marriage Letting Go of an Intimate Partner Can Be like Losing a Limb; How Do You Compensate?
Chapter 15 When Needy Parents Hold Too Tight: Adultified, Parentified and Infantitized Children Sometimes the Dominoes Fall Backwards: Fractured Parents Seek Their Children's Love
Chapter 16 When Needy Parents Can't Share: Parental Alienation Selfishly Undermining the Child's Opportunity to Love Her Other Parent
Chapter 17 Repairing Self "In Case of a Sudden Loss of Cabin Pressure..."; Psychotherapy, Meds, Exercise, Spirituality
Chapter 18 Adult Children as Our Caregivers? The Harsh Realities of Aging
Chapter 19 Death and Loss and Grieving Letting Go for Good
Chapter 20 Letting Go and Holding Tight Giving Our Children Permission to Become Healthy Parents Themselves