Busy Being Free
A Lifelong Romantic is Seduced by Solitude
Published on 18. August 2022
Book
Hardback
336 pages
978-1-4746-2062-8 (ISBN)
Description
'Alluring, shocking, welcome and wonderful'
Lisa Taddeo, author of Three Women
'The most delicious memoir that kept me in bed all day . . . I think she might be a genius'
Sophie Heawood, author of The Hungover Games
'I've really never read about sex and been so sharply reminded about how much it is tied up with the fundamentals of being a woman'
Minnie Driver
From the author of Your Voice in My Head and Royals comes a beautiful, breath-taking, unputdownable memoir about love and heartbreak, sex and celibacy, growing up and starting again.
What happens when your story doesn't end the way you thought it would?
When the dream life you have been working towards becomes something you must walk away from?
When you swap a Hollywood marriage and a LA mansion with waterside views, for a little attic flat shared only with your daughter, beneath the star-filled sky of deepest North London?
When you find yourself not lonely, but elated - elated to be alone with yourself, who you genuinely thought you might never get to see again?
When, after a life guided by romantic obsession, you decide to turn your back not only on marriage, but all romantic and sexual attachments?
Lisa Taddeo, author of Three Women
'The most delicious memoir that kept me in bed all day . . . I think she might be a genius'
Sophie Heawood, author of The Hungover Games
'I've really never read about sex and been so sharply reminded about how much it is tied up with the fundamentals of being a woman'
Minnie Driver
From the author of Your Voice in My Head and Royals comes a beautiful, breath-taking, unputdownable memoir about love and heartbreak, sex and celibacy, growing up and starting again.
What happens when your story doesn't end the way you thought it would?
When the dream life you have been working towards becomes something you must walk away from?
When you swap a Hollywood marriage and a LA mansion with waterside views, for a little attic flat shared only with your daughter, beneath the star-filled sky of deepest North London?
When you find yourself not lonely, but elated - elated to be alone with yourself, who you genuinely thought you might never get to see again?
When, after a life guided by romantic obsession, you decide to turn your back not only on marriage, but all romantic and sexual attachments?
Reviews / Votes
A staggering piece of writing: I had to start it again the minute I finished reading it, and it was just as shocking, absorbing and beautiful on rereading -- Nigella Lawson Compelling, mystical, deeply moving, darkly funny. Busy Being Free is a poetic, incisive, uncensored study of female solitude. I adored it. * Dolly Alderton * Alluring, shocking, welcome and wonderful -- Lisa Taddeo, author of THREE WOMEN The most delicious memoir that kept me in bed all day. I wonder what it is like to live with a mind like Forrest's, which makes such shooting connections between things and sees a great pattern in it all. I think she might be a genius. Eve Babitz didn't die, she just regenerated as Emma Forrest -- Sophie Heawood, author of THE HUNGOVER GAMES I've really never read about sex and been so sharply reminded about how much it is tied up with the fundamentals of being a woman. This deep part of ourselves that somehow gets side-lined and subordinated by everything else. This ecstatic voice we so often manage to ignore. I can hear Emma's voice though, and it's woken me up -- Minnie Driver, author of Managing Expectations Busy Being Free utterly thrilled me with its exposition of loneliness, solitude, and the differences between the two.How wonderful to be privy to many sides of a marriage and what comes after it, how wonderful to be shown so vividly that the end of a formal relationship is not the end of life nor even the end of that particular love. Emma Forrest is a master of voicing those human instincts and thoughts which feel too murky or ingrained to be articulated, and yet here she is doing so with enviable elegance on every page -- Megan Nolan, author of Acts of Desperation A heart-rending and acerbic memoir of appetite and abstinence -- Polly Samson, author of A Theatre for Dreamers Emma Forrest can write the hell out of anything but where she truly excels is when she's writing about her life, which is often like something out of a novel... A glorious, sharp-as-a-tack-but-full-of-soul exploration of heartbreak and what happens next. -- Sarra Manning * RED MAGAZINE * Her writing hums with life, honesty and intelligence and underneath the romance and red carpets is loneliness and vulnerability. -- Marianne Power * THE TIMES * Forrest is examining, with an unflinching eye and a formidable cultural frame of reference... what it means for a woman to find herself alone in her 40s and to redefine herself outside a context of marriage, motherhood and men... One of Forrest's greatest gifts as a writer - apart from her humour; like its predecessor, Busy Being Free is frequently hilarious - is her instinct for ambiguity. She writes so well about messy lives because she understands the contradictions we are all prone to... the fact that she has written about this mid life excavation with such ferocity and frankness is cause for celebration. -- Stephanie Merritt * THE OBSERVER * Not to be missed... Disarmingly candid, she reveals how she put herself back together after shattering heartbreak. -- Helen Whitaker * GRAZIA * A rollicking good read - a lyrical and titillating journey through Los Angeles and North London. -- Honeysuckle Weeks * MAIL ON SUNDAY * A beautiful, unputdownable memoir about love and heartbreak, sex and celibacy, growing up and starting again. * SHEERLUXE * Deeply moving and wryly warm. * HEAT MAGAZINE * This book had me from the first few lines. It's bracingly honest, brilliantly written, and very, very sexy. Take it somewhere no one can find you - a hotel, a beach, or foreign country - and celebrate your solitude with the same energy as Emma Forrest -- Tanya Shadrick, author of The Cure for Sleep Busy Being Free is a perfect combination of sharp, moving and funny. A story about marriage and its life beyond divorce, but also about how we define ourselves through our relationships and the physical and emotional transformation that comes with maturity and middle age. This is a brave book as it explores love, lust and female desire to the bone, but does it with such airy effortlessness that it becomes a gift we can all learn from -- Lily Dunn, author of Sins of My Father As well as being elegantly written, Busy Being Free is eminently readable - a treasure trove of profound insights into love, lust and female desire. -- Emma Lee Potter * DAILY MIRROR * Hitting themes of heartbreak, romance, celibacy and self-discovery, it's a testament to the power of putting yourself first. -- Alicia Lansom * REFINERY 29 * Reading Busy Being Free isn't like reading at all, in the sense that you will never look at how many pages you have left, or wonder whether this was the page you got stuck on last night before sleep. It's more like drinking, or watching TV (no higher praise, in this books column). It is funny, compelling, and the product of a singular, valuable mind. -- Nick Hornby * The Believer * A new piece of magic from a mind who changed mine. Like reading the best friend you don't have but always needed, that grows you right up while keeping you young -- Lena Dunham Utterly unique yet totally relatable. A book that made me think about sex and desire in completely different ways and the tender painful brutality of love. A totally intoxicating read, that fascinated me from start to end -- Abi Morgan
More details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Orion Publishing Co
Dimensions
Height: 218 mm
Width: 142 mm
Thickness: 34 mm
Weight
452 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-4746-2062-8 (9781474620628)
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Born in London, Emma Forrest began her writing career as a teenage columnist on the Sunday Times, going on to have columns in The Guardian, the Independent and Elle. By thirty, she had published three novels and exited journalism to work in Hollywood as a screenwriter. Her memoir Your Voice In My Head is beloved by Nick Hornby, Dolly Alderton, Bryony Gordon, Emma Gannon, Florence Welch and Elizbeth Gilbert. Emma wrote and directed her first feature Untogether, which premiered at the Tribeca Film festival. Her most recent novel was the Radio 2 Book Club pick, Royals, praised by Marian Keyes, David Nicholls and Emma Jane Unsworth.