Transforming the Shame Triangle
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Jessica Fern is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and an integrative practitioner with decades of experience and training in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic and spiritual therapies. She is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Nonmonogamy and The Polysecure Workbook, and co-author of Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships and Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work.
Content
Acknowledgments
Introduction
My Journey to Parts Work
About Us: Jess and Dave
A Note on Shame Versus shame
Book Overview
Chapter 1: The Drama Triangle
Why So Much Drama?
Who Starts the Triangle?
Getting Off the Drama Triangle
Chapter 2: Getting to Know Your Shame Triangle
The Inner Critic
Shame
Escapers
How Your Shame Triangle Parts Instigate Each Other
Chapter 3: Shame Triangle Origins and Triggers
Where Does the Shame Triangle Come From?
Recognizing Internalization
Shame Triangle Triggers
The Trouble with Positive Events
Chapter 4: The Self
The Self in IFS
Exercises for Cultivating Self-Connection
Chapter 5: Becoming Self-Centered in Body, Heart and Mind
The Self-Centered Model
The Body Center
The Heart Center
The Mind Center
Evaluating Your Three Centers
Integration and Reflection: Bringing the Three Centers into Balance
Chapter 6: Dialoguing with Your Parts
The Absent but Implicit
A Few Common Concerns Before You Begin
The Transformation Process
Transforming the Inner Critic
Transforming Shame
Transforming Escapers
Chapter 7: The Shame Triangle and the Body
The Shame Triangle and Nervous System Survival Responses
The Inner Critic and the Fight Response Turned Inward
Shame and the Freeze Response 213 Escapers and the Four F's
Regulating the Four F Responses of the Nervous System
Listening to the Body's Wisdom
Chapter 8: The Shame Triangle and the Heart
Heart Center Exercises
Chapter 9: The Shame Triangle and the Mind
Shame Triangle Mindsets
Self-Led Mindsets
Shift Your Mindset Prompts
The R's of Releasing Beliefs and Resonating with New Ones
Chapter 10: When Your Shame Triangle Isn't Yours
Exercises
Chapter 11: Bringing Our Shame Triangle Parts Together into the Self-Love Triangle
Repair Processes
Create Your Own Ritual
Conclusion
Appendix
EASE Process for Working with Your Parts
References
Index