Final Negotiations
A Story of Love, and Chronic Illness
Will be published approx. on 27. January 1995
Book
Hardback
277 pages
978-1-56639-270-9 (ISBN)
Description
When Carolyn Ellis, a graduate student, and Gene Weinstein, her Professor, fell in love, he was experiencing the first stages of emphysema. As he became increasingly disabled and immobile, these two intensely connected partners fought to maintain their love and to live a meaningful life. They learned to negotiate their daily lives in a way that enabled each of them to feel sufficiently autonomous-him not always like a patient and her not always like a caretaker. Writing as a sociologist, Ellis protrays their life together as a way to understand the complexities of romance, of living with a progressive illness, and, in the final negotiation and reversal of positions, of coping with the loss of a loved one.This rare memoir full of often raw details and emotions becomes an intimate conversation about the intricacies of feeling and relating in a relationship. What Ellis calls experimental ethnography is a finely crafted, forthright, and daring story framed by the author's reflections on writing about and analyzing one's own life. Casting off the safe distance of most social science inquiry, she surrenders the private shroud of a complex relationship to bring sociology closer to literature.
Reviews / Votes
"This is a remarkably revealing portrait of a couple dealing with a debilitating chronic illness."-Kirkus Reviews
"In this deeply poignant and personal text Carolyn Ellis offers a brilliant account of how the lingering death of a loved one creates the occasion for radical redefinitions of self. Death is a shared project. Loved ones do not always go gently into the good night. This is a story of death, identity, and love. In this work Ellis gives Gene Weinstein the greatest gift of all, a loving death. In so doing, she shows all of us how to do the same."
-Norman K. Denzin, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
"Final Negotiations makes a unique contribution to sociology, the helping professions, and to families struggling with chronic illness. There is no other sociology book like it: Carolyn Ellis creates an intimate conversation about lived experience, relating, feeling, and working. She tells us two interrelated narratives-the story of her nine-year relationship with a partner who died of emphysema and the story of the writing of Final Negotiations. We are invited into a dialectics of intimacy to experience with her the complexly layered and nuanced emotions around attachment, love, power, jealousy, anger, care-taking, loss, and recovery. In a brilliant and courageous conclusion, we see how writing with passion about the Self, connecting sociology with literature, breaking genre boundaries are acts of recovery, release, and love. The reader will be treated to a most original, nervy, and memorable book."
-Laurel Richardson, Ohio State University
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Series
Language
English
Place of publication
Philadelphia PA
United States
Target group
Professional and scholarly
ISBN-13
978-1-56639-270-9 (9781566392709)
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Schweitzer Classification
Person
Carolyn Ellis is Professor of Sociology at the University of South Florida, Director of the Institute for Interpretive Human Studies, and author of several books, including Investigating Subjectivity: Research on Lived Experience (co-edited with Michael Flaherty).
Content
Acknowledgments
1. Beginning
2. Negotiating Attachment
3. Negotiating Stability and Change
4. Negotiating Loss
5. Negotiating the Story
6. Endings
References
Index
1. Beginning
2. Negotiating Attachment
3. Negotiating Stability and Change
4. Negotiating Loss
5. Negotiating the Story
6. Endings
References
Index