The Un-Making of Them

Reviews / Votes

'Nick Duffell has curated a series of interlocking works that, together, form a devastating indictment of the enormous harm that boarding schools have inflicted, for far too long, on far too many.'

Earl Charles Spencer, historian and author of A Very private School

'A first-class anthology that digs deep into the psychological harm done by boarding schools. For the first time, there is a serious attempt to identify and understand the abuse suffered by girls who fall prey to older boys at co-educational boarding schools where staff are incapable of protecting them.'

Robert Verkaik

'A timely and useful summary of therapeutic approaches, with original contributions of particular interest and importance about women ex-boarders and co-educational boarding.'

Richard Beard, author of Sad Little Men

'An important additional enquiry that broadens out from Nick Duffell's pioneering work on identifying the psycho-social fall-out from boarding. It explores the widespread harm resulting from this pernicious way of raising children, and describes a range of treatment approaches for this difficult client group. All clinicians who want to be up to date must read this.'

Prof. Andrew Samuels, former chair of UKCP, author of A New Therapy for Politics

'This book is a welcome contribution to the growing literature on the boarding school experience. Offering a range of essays by different authors, it highlights the relatively neglected topic of the female experience of boarding school as well as issues that arise for female psychotherapists who are themselves ex-boarders. Using vivid examples from clinical practice, we are reminded of the complex impact of ruptured attachment relationships on adult emotional life.'

Sue Gerhardt, author of Why Love Matters

'Nick Duffell's work has illuminated my life ever since I first started to address the traumas that arose from my 'privileged' schooling. He has helped me immeasurably, and that has helped me to help others. His latest book brings together a fascinating range of thinkers and practitioners in the field of boarding school and associated syndromes - a force to ensure that children in institutions, state and private, are understood and protected better than we were. Let's listen to them.'

Alex Renton, writer and broadcaster, author of Stiff Upper Lip

'To what extent has Britain's class system been dependent on traumatising children? This is the wonderfully uncomfortable question that opens Duffell's newest book on 'boarding school survivors'. Although aimed at therapists helping those grown-up children to recover, the book's core concerns are relevant to all of us. If modern life is governed by the ruthless economics of neoliberalism, then guess where the global elite are choosing to send their children for education? Duffell and colleagues ask us to pay attention to distress. We should listen.'

Dr Suzanne Zeedyk, Developmental Psychologist, University of Dundee

'Duffell presents a brand-new collection of essays by experienced therapists working with adults who were, as children, sent to boarding school. The lasting impact of the traumatic losses are vividly conveyed by practitioners from diverse counselling and psychotherapy modalities, many of them boarding school survivors themselves. The deeply moving and rich collection of narratives will inform and inspire. A timely addition to the literature, this book will be a vital resource for therapists and ex-boarders alike.'

Professor Joy Schaverien, PhD, Jungian Psychoanalyst and author of Boarding School Syndrome: The Psychological Trauma of the 'Privileged' Child

'A bold and pioneering contribution to human psychology.'

Professor Brett Kahr, Senior Fellow at the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology and author of twenty books, including Forensic Psychoanalysis: From Sub-Clinical Psychopaths to Serial Killers

'With extensive knowledge of the challenges faced by those who experienced this unique form of trauma, psychotherapist, Nick Duffell has curated a comprehensive selection of clinically focused chapters. Each of these is written by an author with understanding of the complexities of healing from abuse and neglect masked as privilege. This book needs to be read by anyone supporting boarding school survivors on their journey to recovery.'

Dr Naomi Murphy, Consultant Clinical & Forensic Psychologist, Honorary Professor of Psychology (Nottingham Trent University)

'[In this book] authors give an honest and deep description of their work and don't shy away from difficulties and potential pitfalls. They are also generous in sharing useful tools and techniques. There is a debate at times in the book about the pros and cons of therapists being ex-boarders, as many of them are. This issue is discussed in a very helpful chapter about supervision written by an author who is both not British and not an ex-boarder. This book is a strong step forwards and there are various possible future research and training initiatives which could follow.'

From the Psychologist (British Psychological Society), by Thurstine Basset