Too Much
A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Co-dependency
Published on 24. October 2024
Book
Paperback/Softback
272 pages
978-1-3998-2214-5 (ISBN)
Description
Are you the person everyone comes to when they're in a jam?
Do you regularly accommodate others' needs and preferences?
Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don't handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend's latest crisis, and so on?
If these questions resonate, the odds are good that you are one of the overgiving, overextending individuals struggling with what psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole has termed high-functioning codependency (HFC).
When you hear the word codependent, you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Terri certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviors that fell outside of the classic model.
The ironic truth with HFC is that the more capable you are the more codependency doesn't look like codependency.
In Too Much, you'll discover how to identify your HFC blueprint (or why you relate to others the way you do), the source of the attraction between codependents and narcissists, and how to cultivate emotional resiliency, practice real self-care, and much more.
Each chapter includes tips, self-assessments, and exercises to help you transform how you see yourself and the world, avoid relapses, and stay centered in your own experience so that you can relate to others in a healthier way.
"How you feel, what you think, what you want matters. In fact, those things need to matter to you the most," writes Terri. "By choosing the path of healing and recovery, you are coming home to yourself." Here is a book for making the shift "from too much to just right," so you can live a life that's full of authenticity, freedom, and joy.
Do you regularly accommodate others' needs and preferences?
Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don't handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend's latest crisis, and so on?
If these questions resonate, the odds are good that you are one of the overgiving, overextending individuals struggling with what psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole has termed high-functioning codependency (HFC).
When you hear the word codependent, you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Terri certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviors that fell outside of the classic model.
The ironic truth with HFC is that the more capable you are the more codependency doesn't look like codependency.
In Too Much, you'll discover how to identify your HFC blueprint (or why you relate to others the way you do), the source of the attraction between codependents and narcissists, and how to cultivate emotional resiliency, practice real self-care, and much more.
Each chapter includes tips, self-assessments, and exercises to help you transform how you see yourself and the world, avoid relapses, and stay centered in your own experience so that you can relate to others in a healthier way.
"How you feel, what you think, what you want matters. In fact, those things need to matter to you the most," writes Terri. "By choosing the path of healing and recovery, you are coming home to yourself." Here is a book for making the shift "from too much to just right," so you can live a life that's full of authenticity, freedom, and joy.
Reviews / Votes
Too Much reveals how our deepest compulsions to help and heal others can unexpectedly lead us away from our true selves. A transformative read that offers a pathway to reclaim your personal power and emotional integrity. * <b>Dr Shefali, 'New York Times' bestselling author of 'The Conscious Parent' and 'The Parenting Map'</b> * This is a crash course for anyone that can do it all and suffers because of it. With masterful storytelling and expert techniques, Too Much will teach you how to stop protecting others over protecting yourself. * <b>Elizabeth Earnshaw, author of 'I Want This to Work' and 'Til Stress Do Us Part'</b> * Terri Cole brilliantly expands the definition of codependency, revealing its hidden impact on high-functioning individuals. Her transformative guidance helps you move from constant overfunctioning to true fulfillment and balance.. * <b>Minaa B., author of 'Owning Our Struggles'</b> * Terri Cole has broken the mould and dared to define a whole new area of codependency - and she's showing us how to break the chains. * <b>Steven Pressfield, author of 'The War of Art'</b> * This book is everything we need it to be-honest, sincere, and practical. Cole dismantles the misconceptions surrounding codependency, inviting readers into a judgment-free zone where shifts and breakthroughs are possible. * <b>Sara Kuburic, author of 'It's On Me'</b> * Too Much is a powerful guide for anyone that has ever fallen into the trap of 'doing too much' at the cost of their own well-being. If you are looking for a psychologically backed book that is grounded with real, actionable steps, this is for you. Let the power of this book transform you to being a better you, living a healthier life, and having balanced relationships that HONOUR YOUR needs. Too Much is a must read. * <b>Christine Gutierrez, author of 'I Am Diosa'</b> *More details
Language
English
Place of publication
United Kingdom
Publishing group
John Murray Press
Product notice
Paperback (UK-trade)
Illustrations
N/A
Dimensions
Height: 231 mm
Width: 153 mm
Thickness: 22 mm
Weight
336 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-3998-2214-5 (9781399822145)
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Other editions
Additional editions
E-Book
10/2024
1st Edition
Sheldon Press
€12.99
Available for download
Person
Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss. For over 25 years, she has worked with a diverse group of clients from stay-at-home mums to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts actionable and accessible. She inspires over 600,000 people weekly through her public platforms and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com.