Stop Trying to Fix Me

The author's world turned upside down after her husband of 49 years died. While the advice and comments from friends and family were well-intentioned, they often felt like salt in an open wound. Nancy Clark lays bare her very personal journey from anguish, anger and despair to hope and even joy. Unlike other books about grief, this one includes evidence of the afterlife as Ms. Clark recollects her own near-death experiences and describes several after-death communications, offering reassurance that our loved ones are always with us. ~~WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING~~ ¿Stop Trying to Fix Me: I¿m Grieving As Fast As I Can is the unflinching personal experience of a widow who is just now beginning to emerge from profound grief some two years after her husband¿s death. Clark shares what it has been like to experience his rapidly declining health, the death itself, and the two years since his death-what she has found helpful and what has increased her sense of grief and isolation. She reminds readers that each person¿s grief is unique to them, including the process of healing itself and how long it takes until they begin to have a glimpse of resuming life without their loved one. Her earlier near-death experience and profound spiritually-transformative experience have supported her in the grieving process in that she is certain of life-after-death, but they do not blunt the raw pain of missing a life-long love. Experiences of after-death communication from her deceased husband have contributed to her healing process as well. She has courageously written of her loss in the midst of the loss, not from the vantage point of someone who is writing about the memory of a loss. From that perspective, her writing will be especially helpful to people who are currently undergoing overwhelming grief. One of the most helpful things we can experience when we are in the midst of grief is to hear the personal story of someone who is working through her grief and beginning to see a glimpse of hope for the future. Nancy Clark is that companion on the journey and I recommend this book not only to bereaved loved ones, but also to counselors, friends and people with near-death experiences and spiritually- transformative experiences as they strive to be helpful to bereaved people in their lives.¿ ~~Pam Kircher, MD ~~Author of Love is the Link: A Hospice Doctor Shares her Experience of Near-Death and Dying