Failures of Forgiveness
What We Get Wrong and How to Do Better
Published on 4. November 2025
Book
Paperback/Softback
240 pages
978-0-691-23046-7 (ISBN)
Description
Philosopher Myisha Cherry teaches us the right ways to deal with wrongdoing in our lives and the world
Sages from Cicero to Oprah have told us that forgiveness requires us to let go of negative emotions and that it has a unique power to heal our wounds. In Failures of Forgiveness, Myisha Cherry argues that these beliefs couldn't be more wrong-and that the ways we think about and use forgiveness, personally and as a society, can often do more harm than good. She presents a new and healthier understanding of forgiveness-one that will give us a better chance to recover from wrongdoing and move toward "radical repair."
Cherry began exploring forgiveness after some relatives of the victims of the mass shooting at Emanuel A.M.E. Church in Charleston, South Carolina, forgave what seemed unforgiveable. She was troubled that many observers appeared to be more inspired by these acts of forgiveness than they were motivated to confront the racial hatred that led to the killings. That is a big mistake, Cherry argues. Forgiveness isn't magic. We can forgive and still be angry, there can be good reasons not to forgive, and forgiving a wrong without tackling its roots solves nothing. Examining how forgiveness can go wrong in families, between friends, at work, and in the media, politics, and beyond, Cherry addresses forgiveness and race, canceling versus forgiving, self-forgiveness, and more. She takes the burden of forgiveness off those who have been wronged and offers guidance both to those deciding whether and how to forgive and those seeking forgiveness.
By showing us how to do forgiveness better, Failures of Forgiveness promises to transform how we deal with wrongdoing in our lives, opening a new path to true healing and reconciliation.
Sages from Cicero to Oprah have told us that forgiveness requires us to let go of negative emotions and that it has a unique power to heal our wounds. In Failures of Forgiveness, Myisha Cherry argues that these beliefs couldn't be more wrong-and that the ways we think about and use forgiveness, personally and as a society, can often do more harm than good. She presents a new and healthier understanding of forgiveness-one that will give us a better chance to recover from wrongdoing and move toward "radical repair."
Cherry began exploring forgiveness after some relatives of the victims of the mass shooting at Emanuel A.M.E. Church in Charleston, South Carolina, forgave what seemed unforgiveable. She was troubled that many observers appeared to be more inspired by these acts of forgiveness than they were motivated to confront the racial hatred that led to the killings. That is a big mistake, Cherry argues. Forgiveness isn't magic. We can forgive and still be angry, there can be good reasons not to forgive, and forgiving a wrong without tackling its roots solves nothing. Examining how forgiveness can go wrong in families, between friends, at work, and in the media, politics, and beyond, Cherry addresses forgiveness and race, canceling versus forgiving, self-forgiveness, and more. She takes the burden of forgiveness off those who have been wronged and offers guidance both to those deciding whether and how to forgive and those seeking forgiveness.
By showing us how to do forgiveness better, Failures of Forgiveness promises to transform how we deal with wrongdoing in our lives, opening a new path to true healing and reconciliation.
Reviews / Votes
"Finalist for the Zocalo Book Prize" "A Seminary Co-Op Notable Book of the Year" "A first rate work from a penetrating mind." * Publishers Weekly, starred review * "[Cherry] is especially insightful on the asymmetry of forgiveness requests following incidents of racial violence. . . [A] nuanced view of how one might both cultivate possibilities of forgiveness - as requesters and extenders - and learn to live with its lack."---Rhoda Feng, Times Literary Supplement "Eminently readable and always engaging, Failures of Forgiveness brings a care and clarity to the complex concept at its heart, ultimately asking us to enlarge the ways we understand-and practice-forgiveness. For the desire to write prose that is at once accessible and precise, Cherry needn't apologize. . . she accomplishes both.""---Gregory Laski, Los Angeles Review of Books "Myisha Cherry will make you stop and (re)examine what you think you know about forgiveness."---Karla J. Strand, Ms. Magazine "Cherry's [Failures of Forgiveness], rooted in real-world examples, is what I would hand to my congregant struggling over whether to forgive a family member. . . . [Cherry] provides concrete language, potential strategies, and contextual self-awareness to the practice of forgiveness, all without short-circuiting an individual's need to exercise creative moral discernment of their own."---William T. Barnett, Christian Century "A fascinating examination of forgiveness, its conceptions and misconceptions, and how we can best extend (or choose not to extend) forgiveness in our lives with reparative aims. . . .Well-written, thoughtful, and highly intelligent, this book has transformed my understanding of forgiveness."---Ilina Jha, Redbrick Culture "[A]n accessible, thoughtful book that offers a useful corrective to an overly narrow definition of forgiveness. . . . [Failures of Forgiveness] should propel subtle reflection and rich, deep conversation."---Paul Dornan, Presbyterian Outlook "Thoughtful. . . . [Failures of Forgiveness] will attract readers eager to delve into forgiveness in its many forms." * Library Journal * "A very helpful guide book for those who want to know how philosophy can help us to understand and practise forgiveness better today."---Stephen Cherry, Church Times "A thought-provoking work on forgiveness." * Choice *More details
Language
English
Place of publication
New Jersey
United States
Product notice
Paperback (trade)
Illustrations
3 tables.
Dimensions
Height: 212 mm
Width: 138 mm
Thickness: 16 mm
Weight
298 gr
ISBN-13
978-0-691-23046-7 (9780691230467)
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Schweitzer Classification
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Additional editions
E-Book
09/2023
1st Edition
Princeton University Press
€17.49
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Person
Myisha Cherry is associate professor of philosophy at the University of California, Riverside, where she also directs the Emotion and Society Lab. She is the author of The Case for Rage: Why Anger Is Essential to Anti-Racist Struggle and UnMuted: Conversations on Prejudice, Oppression, and Social Justice, which draws on her popular podcast UnMute. She has been widely featured in the media, including the Los Angeles Times, The New Yorker, the Atlantic, BET, and the podcast Pod Save the People.