He/She/They
How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters
Published on 19. October 2023
Book
Paperback/Softback
384 pages
978-0-241-62608-5 (ISBN)
Description
How can we change the conversation around gender, become better allies, challenge misconceptions and make the world a better place?
Anti-transgender legislation is being introduced across the world in record-breaking numbers. Trans people are under attack in sports, healthcare, entertainment, schools, bathrooms and nearly every walk of life.
Schuyler Bailar didn't set out to be an activist, but his very public transition to the Harvard men's swim team put him in the spotlight. His choice to be open about his journey and share his experience has touched people around the world. His plain-spoken education has evolved into tireless advocacy for inclusion and collective liberation. In He/She/They, Schuyler uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give us essential language and context of gender, meeting everyone where they are and paving the way for understanding, acceptance and, most importantly, connection. Schuyler clearly and compassionately addresses fundamental topics, from why being transgender is not a choice and why pronouns are important, to more complex issues including how gender-affirming healthcare can be lifesaving and why allowing trans youth to play sports is good for every child.
More than a book on allyship, He/She/They also speaks to trans people directly, answering the question, 'does it get better?' with a resounding yes, celebrating radical trans joy. With a relatable narrative rooted in facts, science and history, Schuyler helps restore common sense and humanity to a discussion that continues to be divisively co-opted and deceptively politicized. Myth-busting, affirming and compassionate, He/She/They is a crucial, urgent and lifesaving book that will forever change the conversation about gender.
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'Informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with joy. I love this book!' Jonathan Van Ness, New York Times bestselling author, and TV personality
'Written for both a trans and a general readership, [this] is a solid introduction to why trans rights matter' Publisher's Weekly
'I wish I had this book to guide my own journey years ago, but I am so glad it exists now. We need it!' Dylan Mulvaney, actress, comedian
Anti-transgender legislation is being introduced across the world in record-breaking numbers. Trans people are under attack in sports, healthcare, entertainment, schools, bathrooms and nearly every walk of life.
Schuyler Bailar didn't set out to be an activist, but his very public transition to the Harvard men's swim team put him in the spotlight. His choice to be open about his journey and share his experience has touched people around the world. His plain-spoken education has evolved into tireless advocacy for inclusion and collective liberation. In He/She/They, Schuyler uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give us essential language and context of gender, meeting everyone where they are and paving the way for understanding, acceptance and, most importantly, connection. Schuyler clearly and compassionately addresses fundamental topics, from why being transgender is not a choice and why pronouns are important, to more complex issues including how gender-affirming healthcare can be lifesaving and why allowing trans youth to play sports is good for every child.
More than a book on allyship, He/She/They also speaks to trans people directly, answering the question, 'does it get better?' with a resounding yes, celebrating radical trans joy. With a relatable narrative rooted in facts, science and history, Schuyler helps restore common sense and humanity to a discussion that continues to be divisively co-opted and deceptively politicized. Myth-busting, affirming and compassionate, He/She/They is a crucial, urgent and lifesaving book that will forever change the conversation about gender.
***
'Informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with joy. I love this book!' Jonathan Van Ness, New York Times bestselling author, and TV personality
'Written for both a trans and a general readership, [this] is a solid introduction to why trans rights matter' Publisher's Weekly
'I wish I had this book to guide my own journey years ago, but I am so glad it exists now. We need it!' Dylan Mulvaney, actress, comedian
Reviews / Votes
'Deeply informative and beautifully written' -- Elliot Page Trans and gender-fluid teens will see themselves in Bailar's meaningful work, and cisteens will find essential information on being a good ally * Booklist (Starred Review) * This book is informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with information, joy and proactive ways to get involved in what is one of the most important human rights conversations of our time. I love this book! * Jonathan Van Ness * This book is so necessary ... I know I speak for trans people everywhere when I say, no one is better suited to this than Schuyler. He is the master of accessible, inclusive and entertaining explainers -- Freddy McConnell, author and journalist He/She/They is a beautiful, embracing, and compassionate book for those wanting to explore their own, or another's gender identity -- Jamie Windust, Author & Broadcaster, Contributing Editor at Gay Times Through this heart-holding educational memoir, Schuyler Bailar swims through a sea of hate and misinformation - preaching love and learning. Schuyler's words seek to challenge power and connect to those who really need it. And that's what we need right fucking now -- Radam Ridwan (@radamridwan), trans non-binary content creator, author of 'The Lockdown Lookbook' Courageous and heartwarming, He/She/They sheds light on the journey of gender discovery and acceptance. A must-read for anyone seeking understanding, compassion, and hope on the path to self-discovery -- Jazz Jennings, [she/her], activist, television personality, and author
More details
Language
English
Place of publication
London
United Kingdom
Publishing group
Penguin Books Ltd
Product notice
Paperback (UK-trade)
Dimensions
Height: 233 mm
Width: 152 mm
Thickness: 32 mm
Weight
490 gr
ISBN-13
978-0-241-62608-5 (9780241626085)
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Additional editions
E-Book
10/2023
Penguin Books Ltd
€14.99
Available for download
Person
Schuyler Bailar is a top social media LGBTQ+ educator and advocate, and a leading DEI speaker and advisor with clients that include Capital One, Microsoft, and hundreds of other organisations, colleges, and schools. He is the first transgender athlete to compete on Harvard University's winningest Swim team at NCAA level. His difficult choice - to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being a national champion - was historic. His advocacy earned him LGBTQ Nation's Instagram Advocate for 2020 and he has nearly 400k social media followers.