Having Hard Conversations
1st Edition
Published on 23. March 2009
Book
Paperback/Softback
152 pages
978-1-4129-6500-2 (ISBN)
Description
"A thoughtful map for authentically engaging in and learning from hard conversations. Abrams gently teaches us why having these conversations matter and how they can help us grow."
-Eleanor Drago-Severson, Associate Professor of Educational Leadership
Teachers College, Columbia University
"A wonderful combination of coaching, consulting, and crafting a way of teaching us all to speak honestly in our relationships."
-Ann Lieberman, Senior Scholar
Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching
"Our teaching culture is adverse to conflict. Having tools like this will move education forward as a profession."
-Michael Grinder, National Director and Educational Consultant
NLP in Education
"This book has already changed my life. Just by reading it, my courage to have hard conversations has soared."
-Beth Madison, Principal
George Middle School, Portland, OR
Speak with clarity, confidence, and courage!
For many educators, confronting a colleague about a work-related issue can be a daunting matter. This insightful book helps educators speak with clarity and courage to directly address difficult situations within their schools.
Having Hard Conversations provides an interactive, personal approach to mastering the art of challenging conversations. The author's step-by-step strategy addresses a wide range of situations, including communication with supervisees, peers, and supervisors. Emphasizing that initiative and preparation are the keys to a successful conversation, this resource includes:
Thought-provoking questions and first-person accounts that help educators become more self-aware, effective communicators
Advice on overcoming personal hesitation about expressing concerns
Guidance on identifying goals for the conversation and choosing the best "what-where-and-when" for a productive discussion
Sample scripts and practical tools to help educators prepare for the conversation
By addressing important issues directly and professionally, educators can find self-empowerment and promote an open, healthy school environment.
-Eleanor Drago-Severson, Associate Professor of Educational Leadership
Teachers College, Columbia University
"A wonderful combination of coaching, consulting, and crafting a way of teaching us all to speak honestly in our relationships."
-Ann Lieberman, Senior Scholar
Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching
"Our teaching culture is adverse to conflict. Having tools like this will move education forward as a profession."
-Michael Grinder, National Director and Educational Consultant
NLP in Education
"This book has already changed my life. Just by reading it, my courage to have hard conversations has soared."
-Beth Madison, Principal
George Middle School, Portland, OR
Speak with clarity, confidence, and courage!
For many educators, confronting a colleague about a work-related issue can be a daunting matter. This insightful book helps educators speak with clarity and courage to directly address difficult situations within their schools.
Having Hard Conversations provides an interactive, personal approach to mastering the art of challenging conversations. The author's step-by-step strategy addresses a wide range of situations, including communication with supervisees, peers, and supervisors. Emphasizing that initiative and preparation are the keys to a successful conversation, this resource includes:
Thought-provoking questions and first-person accounts that help educators become more self-aware, effective communicators
Advice on overcoming personal hesitation about expressing concerns
Guidance on identifying goals for the conversation and choosing the best "what-where-and-when" for a productive discussion
Sample scripts and practical tools to help educators prepare for the conversation
By addressing important issues directly and professionally, educators can find self-empowerment and promote an open, healthy school environment.
Reviews / Votes
"Our teaching culture is adverse to conflict. Having tools like this will move education forward as a profession." -- Michael Grinder, National Director and Educational Consultant "A thoughtful and practical map for authentically engaging in and learning from having hard conversations. Abrams gently teaches us why having these conversations matter and how they can help us grow. Her work shines light on the landscape of personal and professional learning from engagement in hard conversations." -- Eleanor Drago-Severson, Associate Professor of Educational Leadership "A wonderful combination of coaching, consulting, and crafting a way of teaching us all to speak honestly in our relationships. From casual conversations to value conflicts, we learn to use and become sensitive to differences in gender, style, and position in this very appealing and important book. A must-read for teachers, principals, and district office personnel who care about developing a healthy school community." -- Ann Lieberman, Senior Scholar "This book has already changed my life. Just by reading it, my courage to have hard conversations has soared." -- Beth Madison, Principal "A straightforward, practical and useful guide for engaging in difficult conversations." -- Lauren LevinMore details
Language
English
Place of publication
Thousand Oaks
United States
Publishing group
SAGE Publications Inc
Target group
Professional and scholarly
Dimensions
Height: 280 mm
Width: 216 mm
Thickness: 8 mm
Weight
402 gr
ISBN-13
978-1-4129-6500-2 (9781412965002)
Copyright in bibliographic data and cover images is held by Nielsen Book Services Limited or by the publishers or by their respective licensors: all rights reserved.
Schweitzer Classification
Other editions
Additional editions
Jennifer B. Abrams
Having Hard Conversations
Book
02/2009
1st Edition
Corwin Press Inc
€89.33
Article exhausted; check different version
Person
Jennifer Abrams is an international educational and communications consultant for public and private schools, hospitals, universities and non-profits. She trains and coaches teachers, administrators, nurses, hospital personnel and others on successful instructional practices, new employee support, supervision and evaluation, generational savvy, having hard conversations and effective collaboration skills.
In Palo Alto USD (Palo Alto, CA), Abrams led professional development sessions and provided new teacher and supervisor trainings at both the elementary and secondary level. From 2000-2011, she was lead coach for the Palo Alto-Mountain View-Los Altos-Saratoga-Los Gatos Consortium's Beginning Teacher Support and Assessment Program.
In her educational consulting work, she has presented at annual conferences such as Learning Forward, ASCD, NASSP, and the New Teacher Center Annual Symposium, as well as at the Teachers' and Principals' Centers for International School Leadership. Her communications consulting in the health care sector includes training and coaching work at the Community Hospital of the Monterey Peninsula and Stanford Hospitals.
Her publications include Having Hard Conversations, published by Corwin Press in 2009, the chapter "Habits of Mind for the School Savvy Leader" in Art Costa's and Bena Kallick's book Learning and Leading with Habits of Mind: 16 Essential Characteristics for Success, and contributions to the book Mentors in the Making: Developing New Leaders for New Teachers published by Teachers College Press. Her most recent book with co-author Valerie Von Frank, Generational Savvy: How to be Effective with Educators of All Generations, was published by Corwin Press in 2013.
She considers herself a "voice coach," helping others learn how to best use their voices, be it in a group, in front of a classroom, coaching a colleague, in a supervisory role and most recently in writing for the stage, as she does as a Board Member of the National New Play Network. Abrams holds a Master's degree in Education from Stanford University and a Bachelor's degree in English from Tufts University.
Watch clips of Abrams' interview with NPR's Claudio Sanchez, from the ASCD Master Class Leadership Series
In Palo Alto USD (Palo Alto, CA), Abrams led professional development sessions and provided new teacher and supervisor trainings at both the elementary and secondary level. From 2000-2011, she was lead coach for the Palo Alto-Mountain View-Los Altos-Saratoga-Los Gatos Consortium's Beginning Teacher Support and Assessment Program.
In her educational consulting work, she has presented at annual conferences such as Learning Forward, ASCD, NASSP, and the New Teacher Center Annual Symposium, as well as at the Teachers' and Principals' Centers for International School Leadership. Her communications consulting in the health care sector includes training and coaching work at the Community Hospital of the Monterey Peninsula and Stanford Hospitals.
Her publications include Having Hard Conversations, published by Corwin Press in 2009, the chapter "Habits of Mind for the School Savvy Leader" in Art Costa's and Bena Kallick's book Learning and Leading with Habits of Mind: 16 Essential Characteristics for Success, and contributions to the book Mentors in the Making: Developing New Leaders for New Teachers published by Teachers College Press. Her most recent book with co-author Valerie Von Frank, Generational Savvy: How to be Effective with Educators of All Generations, was published by Corwin Press in 2013.
She considers herself a "voice coach," helping others learn how to best use their voices, be it in a group, in front of a classroom, coaching a colleague, in a supervisory role and most recently in writing for the stage, as she does as a Board Member of the National New Play Network. Abrams holds a Master's degree in Education from Stanford University and a Bachelor's degree in English from Tufts University.
Watch clips of Abrams' interview with NPR's Claudio Sanchez, from the ASCD Master Class Leadership Series
Content
Foreword by Arthur L. Costa
Preface
Acknowledgments
About the Author
1. What Are Hard Conversations and Why Should We Have Them?
2. Why We Hesitate Having Hard Conversations
3. Questions to Ask Yourself Before Having the Hard Conversation
4. What's the Real Problem?: Finding the Professional Language to Name It
5. Making a Plan
6. Scripting Your Initial Comments
7. The Whats, Wheres, and Whens of Having the Hard Conversation
8. What Ifs? Other Types of Hard Conversations
9. Conclusion
Appendix A. Extended List of Professional Behaviors
Appendix B. School Savvy Etiquette
Appendix C. Sample Scripts for Hard Conversations
References
Index
Preface
Acknowledgments
About the Author
1. What Are Hard Conversations and Why Should We Have Them?
2. Why We Hesitate Having Hard Conversations
3. Questions to Ask Yourself Before Having the Hard Conversation
4. What's the Real Problem?: Finding the Professional Language to Name It
5. Making a Plan
6. Scripting Your Initial Comments
7. The Whats, Wheres, and Whens of Having the Hard Conversation
8. What Ifs? Other Types of Hard Conversations
9. Conclusion
Appendix A. Extended List of Professional Behaviors
Appendix B. School Savvy Etiquette
Appendix C. Sample Scripts for Hard Conversations
References
Index