Trauma-whether caused by society, family, or individual adverse experiences during childhood or adulthood-can affect our souls, our beliefs about ourselves, and cause us to create unhealthy coping strategies that limit our ability to live fully. But that trauma doesn't have to define us. Go from existing to living and become the trailblazer of your own life by learning how to walk between the winds of trauma and change, and transform them into life's adventures.
Beginning with revealing and understanding the roots and effects of trauma, author Darling Villena-Mata, PhD, guides readers through a holistic approach to healing and releasing traumatic energy from the body and soul. A unique how-to guide that incorporates instructional and storytelling narrative, thought-provoking questions, and poetry-all backed by scientific data-Walking Between Winds empowers those suffering from trauma to reclaim their lives.
Darling G. Villena-Mata, Ph.D, writes with heart and expertise about traumas, grief, and paths toward healing into a more full and loving life. She explores how traumas and healing affects one's identity, safety, health, and how we experience love. She, personally, has experienced traumas, miracles, and transformations within herself, and has witnessed them in others. This book draws upon her work with groups and individuals, such as those affected by societal traumas, domestic violence, war trauma, as well as childhood abuse and other individual adverse experiences in one's life. Dr. Villena-Mata holds a Ph.D. in social psychology, with a focus on trauma and conflict resolution, and a Master's degree in clinical psychology. She has been an associate professor in psychology. Currently, she is a speaker, consultant, trainer, and advisor for individuals, groups and organizations. In her workshops and retreats, she integrates humor, breathwork and narrative re-authoring--to encourage the heart to open to the adventures that help us soar.
SECTION 1: DISCOVERING TRAUMA
Chapter 1: Discrimination, Abuse, and Trauma
Chapter 2: Revisiting the Past While Remembering the Present
Chapter 3: Common Pain, Common Bridge: Adult Children of Alcoholics and Recipients of Societal Trauma
Chapter 4: Culturation Spectrum
Bicultural or Polycultural
Education and Ageism
What's in a Word?
Questions to Ask Yourself
Chapter 5: The Don't Rules
Trauma's Impact on "Being" and "Doing"
Family and Differences
Chapter 6 Discovering What Makes Us Who We Are
Area One: Who Am I?
Area Two: Who Are You?
Area Three: Who Do You Think We Are?
Area Four: Loving Differences, Hating Them
Area Five: How Do I Talk to You?
Area Six: On the Bridge of Understanding
Chapter 7: What is in a Name?
SECTION 2: EFFECTS OF TRAUMA
Prelude: Stranger-Neighbor in Our Midst
Chapter 1: Our Bodies' Attempt to Keep Us Safe: Fight, Flight, Freeze
TMCS: Choosing Our Battles
The Reptilian in You
The Limbic System
"Outside" Energy-It May Not Be Yours
Chapter 2: Soul Retrieval and EMDR
Chapter 3: Trauma Stress Reactions - Normal Responses to an Abnormal World
Triggers: Incoming Threat, or Is It Memory?
Trauma Mechanisms and Coping Skills (TMCS) to the Rescue
Roles People Play: Adult Children of Abuse and Recipients of Societal Traumas
Chapter 4: Memory, Perception, and Trauma
Boundaries: Fences or Prison Walls
Boundary Creations, Self, and Trauma
Chapter 5: The Airplane Scenario
Chapter 6: Transgenerational Transmissions
Chapter 7: Revenge
Chapter 8: TMCS and Trauma - Fear and Safety Tools
SECTION 3: HEALING FROM TRAUMAS
Chapter 1: Sharing Your Heart: Being in the Present
Chapter 2: Realization of Trauma: Identity and Grief Process of Individuals and Groups
The Denier: Traumas Do Not Exist
Attitudes of a Person or Group in Denial
Victim-Ground Zero of Pain
Attitudes of a Person or Group in Victim Mode
Survivor-Learning to Cope, to Breathe
Chapter 3: A Wholistic Healing Approach for Those Experiencing Traumas
How Trauma Can Influence Grief and Identity
What Do You Keep? What Do You Fear?
Welcome or Beware
Crises, Addiction, and Grief
Meaning, Loss, and Investment
Chapter 4: Getting the Traumatic Energy Out of the Body
The Violence Within Us
SE and SER: Helping the Body Let Go
Hypnosis: Getting to the "Bottom Line"
Pain and Suffering: Separating the Twins
Breathing Life into Your Story
The Value of Body Positions
The Media: Leader in Healing, or Provider of Secondary Traumas?
Chapter 5: Ancestors' Legacy: Heritage and Healing
Transforming Time from Master to Servant
The Fear of the Oppressed: Honoring Differences
Is It Me? Is the Trigger in Me?
Is It You? Are You Projecting onto Me?
Is It the Way We Communicate? Are Our Words Interfering?
Chapter 7: Time: Regaining More of our Humanity
Chapter 8: Retiring the TMCS - When Peace becomes "Familia"
Unhitching the Physical from the Trigger and Embracing the Dream
Chapter 9: Revisiting Faith and Beliefs - Finding a Bridge to Our Hearts
Redefining the Meaning and Traumas
Looking Below the Trauma Layers
Bien Educado-A Way of Living
"Storytelling" Our Own Lives
Chapter 10: Dreams
SECTION 4: EPILOGUE