Reclaiming Your Life

The Gay Man's Guide to Recovery from Abuse, Addictions, and Self-Defeating Behavior
Rik Isensee (Verlag)
  • erschienen am 28. April 2020
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  • 173 Seiten
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978-1-62536-188-2 (ISBN)
Reclaiming Your Life is a guide to healing from early abuse, homophobia, addictions, and other self-defeating behavior.Part I looks at how growing up gay in a homophobic culture is similar in many ways to growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive family, because of the secrecy, self-blame, and shame that often accompany the realization that we're somehow different, but without much support for understanding what it means to feel attracted to the same sex.In addition, experiences of early physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can sometimes lead to the development of a "false self,” the internalization of negative messages, or the development of self-destructive behavior.Part II shows how gay men can recover from early abuse, internalized homophobia, and self-defeating behavior, such as alcohol and drug abuse, sexual compulsion, body image, and problems with food or debt.It offers chapters on how to counter internalized homophobic and other negative messages, expand the moment between impulse and action, and work through the feelings that are likely to arise when we stop using self-defeating behaviors to push our emotions away.&quote;No matter what kind of family you grew up in, you will find yourself in this book. All of our families are dysfunctional to some degree, and as gay men, we have to overcome our own homophobia and resulting shame. Rik Isensee writes in a style that is so readable and relevant, every gay/bi man can take something with him.&quote; -Jeffrey Chernin, Ph.D. &quote;Members of a dysfunctional family interact abusively, and when the family is homophobic a gay member will likely be doubly abused. In the first half of this guide, Isensee capably outlines all aspects of growing up gay in a dysfunctional family. He includes homophobia, sexual abuse, stress, self- blame, shame, and self-destructive behavior. In the second half, he relates the ways a gay child can overcome the many hindrances to gaining self-respect through grieving, nurturing, and supporting. He ends with suggestions on how to react to homophobia and create a life without the guilt that a heterosexual society induces. Although the topic may seem a bit clinical, Isensee's book is easy to read and even gay adolescents will want to consult it.&quote; -H. Robert Malinowsky, Univ. of Illinois at Chicago, Library Journal&quote;Rik Isensee strikes a long-forgotten chord with his self-help book, Reclaiming Your Life, which gives strong psychological advice to gay men who have been through just about every situation imaginable. There are scenarios presented that will ring true for some readers, and Isensee offers his unique and insightful advice on each of them, giving the reader options to overcome overbearing feelings and/or situations that would cause others to commit drastic actions. This is an excellent book in the field of self-help, and once finished, provides an uplifting light at the end of the tunnel.&quote; -Illinois HIV Prevention, Region 6 Booklist
  • Englisch
  • Chicago
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  • USA
  • 0,74 MB
978-1-62536-188-2 (9781625361882)
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  • Cover Page
  • Advance Praise for Reclaiming Your Life
  • Title Page
  • Contents
  • Introduction
  • Part I: Homophobia and Trauma
  • Growing Up Gay in a Homophobic Culture
  • Homophobia and Heterosexism
  • How Homophobia Becomes Internalized
  • Are Gay Men Really Different?
  • Establishing a Gay Identity
  • Phases in Self-acceptance
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Dysfunctional and Abusive Families
  • Origins of a Positive Self-image
  • Dysfunctional Families Defined
  • The Intergenerational Cycle
  • Types of Abuse
  • The Particular Abuse of Gay Boys
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Effects of Abuse on Gay Sexuality
  • Child Molestation and Homophobia
  • Age of Consent and Youthful Curiosity
  • A Definition of Sexual Abuse
  • Types of Sexual Abuse
  • Reactions to Sexual Abuse
  • Disclosing the Abuse
  • Effects on Intimate Relationships
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Posttraumatic Stress
  • Effects of Trauma
  • AIDS as a Source of Trauma
  • Internalized Homophobia as a Form of Post-traumatic Stress
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Self-blame and Shame
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Abuse and Self-blame
  • Homophobia and Shame
  • Religious Shame
  • Development of a False Self
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Origins of Self-destructive Behavior
  • The Cycle of Shame
  • Alcohol and Substance Abuse
  • Compulsive Behavior
  • Sexual Compulsion
  • Relapse into Unsafe Sex
  • Overwork and Overachieving
  • Food, Debt, and Other Compulsions
  • Self-deprivation
  • Codependency in Gay Relationships
  • Repetition Compulsion and Revictimization
  • Domestic Violence
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Part II: Reclaiming Your Life
  • Understanding the Process of Healing
  • Stages of Healing
  • Recovery From Addictions and Compulsions
  • Reluctance to Seek Help
  • The Strategic Use of Will
  • Support for Recovery
  • Phases in Recovery
  • Gaining Control Over Compulsive Behavior
  • Expanding the Moment Between Impulse and Action
  • The Higher Power and the Nurturing Self
  • Spirituality and the Search for Meaning
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Working Through Feelings
  • Why Deal With Any of This?
  • Gay Men and Feelings
  • How Feelings Work
  • Grieving for Your Lost Childhood
  • Gaining Access to Sadness
  • Feeling Overwhelmed
  • Depression
  • Mobilizing Anger for Positive Change
  • Pacing Yourself
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Awareness of Feelings Exercise
  • Self-nurturing
  • Distortions in Thinking
  • How Thoughts Influence Feelings
  • Feelings Versus Conclusions
  • Suicidal Impulses
  • Nurturing Your Own Child Self
  • The Cycle of Healing From Internalized Shame
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Seeking Support
  • Self-help
  • Friends and Lovers
  • Individual Psychotherapy
  • Group Therapy
  • What to Expect in Group Therapy
  • Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience
  • Self-empowerment
  • Countering Codependency
  • Confrontation
  • The Issue of Forgiveness
  • Combating Homophobia
  • Creating Your Own Life
  • Appendixes
  • I. Effects of Childhood Abuse
  • II. Resources
  • Notes and References
  • Acknowledgments
  • Copyright Page

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