The First Responder life is a crazy roller coaster. It is something we become, something we absorb and accept. We love this life, but we can despise it at the same time. It will never leave us. We have been the husband and wife who were searching-the wife longing for someone to understand, the wife not sure how to handle a husband being a First Responder, the husband trying to show commitment to family and his job, the husband not sure of his next steps.
We are a Law Enforcement family who had to walk through the unimaginable-a critical incident. We always knew it was a possibility but until we experienced it, we never grasped how life-changing a critical incident could be. We had to walk through this trial and keep believing that we would be better from it. It was tough on our marriage, our family life. Everything had changed. We know the difficulties and stress, we understand being gone for days on end, we get the pressure of the job, the high-intensity situations, we get it, and we are hoping you can learn from what we have walked through.
This book focuses on a First Responder marriage, whether it is Military, Medical, Fire, Law Enforcement-it's for all First Responders. However, it is really for any marriage-anyone who wants to grow a deeper relationship with their spouse. It's for anyone who wants to know a little more about the First Responder life and the difficulties they go through daily in their work and family life.
In no way are we marriage experts. We don't claim that this book will totally make things better or automatically enlighten you on how to fix everything. However, we share many of our very personal experiences that we hope you can relate to-stories of our trials, ups and downs in a 10 Code Marriage. Our purpose for this book is that you will find comfort in these stories and know that you are not alone-that these chapters will speak wisdom into your life.
Lance and Rachel began 10 Code Mission in 2020. The book 10 Code Marriage was written when Rachel felt that she wanted to do more for First Responder wives and families after Lance had been in Law Enforcement for over twelve years. Lance has served as a Patrol Officer and as an Investigator. He is currently a Master Police Officer in Investigations. and also an Assistant Team Leader with his Regional SWAT team since late 2012.
Lance and Rachel were college sweethearts and were married in 2006. They call North Dakota home with their three children and their boxer. They love spending time outdoors, especially at their family cabin or fishing! Rachel is a full-time stay-at-home mom and active in volunteering at their home church. She also has a "side-gig" in Real Estate. Lance is busy with work, serving on the security team and co-leading a connect group with Rachel. Their children keep them busy-life is crazy and they wouldn't have it any other way!
Their website is www.10codemission.com