Why can't he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when inlove with a man who won't get married, won't stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called "mother-son enmeshment." In When He's Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma's boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including:
-- Guidelines to help women create fulfilling relationships with mother-enmeshed men
-- Tools to help mother-enmeshed men have healthy and successful dating experiences leading to serious relationships and marriage
-- Strategies to help parents avoid enmeshing their children
When He's Married to Mom provides practical and compassionate advice to the women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, to the mothers who wish to set them free, and to the men themselves.
Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., with Alexander P. Morgan
A Loss of Freedom: The Enmeshment Trap
Part One. What Are You Dealing With?
1. Anne's Dilemma:
The Man Who Won't Commit
2. Doug's First Date:
3. Tony Just Wants to Have Fun:
The Perpetual Adolescent
4. Father Mark Is Killing Himself:
The Burned-out Caretaker
5. Sam Loves His Computer:
The Cybersex Addict
6. Why Warren Will Never Be President:
The Disappointed Hero
7. Freddy Has Anxious Sex:
The Lost Man
8. Why Do Mother-Enmeshed Men Struggle to Be True to Themselves?
Betrayed by Enmeshment
Part Two. How Can You Heal?
9. Becoming Aware:
Making the Unconscious Visible
10. The Healing Journey:
Part Three. How Do You Build Healthy Relationships?
11. Being Your Own Man:
How a MEM Can Make Things Better with Parents, Siblings, and Others
12. Divorce Mom and Don't Marry Someone Like Her:
Guidelines for MEM on Dating and Marriage
13. Should I Stay or Should I Go?
And Other Questions Asked by Women Involved with MEM
14. Guardian Angels:
Parenting Is a Spiritual Mission
15. Getting Past Enmeshment:
A New Freedom